MIL

Just had a daughter 3 weeks ago; -Around 18 weeks prego was the last time I talk to my boyfriends mom she hung up on me and lied to my boyfriend about the context of our conversation then blocked me on social media as well as blocking my mom for no reason !! - she also didn’t want to know our babies name since she wasn’t invited to our baby shower “she didn’t want to know anything about the baby” in her own words. -my boyfriend told me to text her roughly 23 ish weeks to try and be a bigger person trying to make amends pretty much & I did text -me and bf agreed if she didn’t respond then she wouldn’t meet the baby not until the baby was older -i just want to set my boundaries and be respected if it was the other way around I would need to apologize. -she never responded to my text then tries to say I was disrespectful in the message to her son but I wasn’t at all and my bf proof read it before sending and then after his mom said it wasn’t right then their was an issue -anyways my bf just came to me and said once the baby gets a couple more weeks older he wants to take the baby to see his mom going back on what we agreed around 25ish weeks prego -I told him no and he saying that’s not right of me and that me and her don’t have to have a relationship but that’s still her grandmother But I feel like we’re in a relationship I think she does need to respect me to be around my child am I wrong ? -after she hung up on me she never checked on me throughout my pregnancy or even after delivery nothing !! After he told me about her not wanting to know anything about the baby she’s just trying to control and manipulate cause who tf says that the bay is innocent but wants to meet her

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Similar thing happened with me & my MIL. It never got better unfortunately, only worse. She’s been blocked from my phone for almost a year now. At first the same thing happened where she tried to manipulate her son to take her side, but he slowly realized and once he started standing up to her she turned on him too. He doesn’t speak to her anymore either. I hope the situation gets better for you guys.

@Tiana did you do anything specific for him to realize cause he’s like even my dad thinks that’s wrong for you to not let her meet her grandchild he try’s to input other family

I didn’t really do anything specific. We fought a lot during my first pregnancy & he started to realize once I gave birth to our first son that she never asked about me in the hospital and then lied to him that she texted me congratulations and I showed him that she never did. He started noticing her manipulation. I would just keep having conversations with him when I felt disrespected & reminding him that we should always be operating as a team. It got really annoying & exhausting at times, but it eventually worked. He started standing up for me and our decisions. She didn’t like that at all even taking it so far to tell him “he needs to be a man and tell me that he will choose his mother whether I like it or not”… I reminded him that his mother will not be laying down with him at night, taking care of his home, or raising his kids.

Thank you makes me feel theirs hope I would like a good relationship but she has to respect me I appreciate you for taking your time and telling your story hope mines can end like yours and good luck to you both ❤️

I wouldn't let your baby go. Your bf caving and bringing the baby over just shows to his mom that she doesn't have to respect you in order to see her grandchild. I think she shoyldnt be able to see her grand baby unless she can get over whatever issue she has with you and start over. Don't cave. Your bf is rewarding his moms bad behavior, and he's only making it worse by letting yalls baby go before things are mended between you. Tell him that if he wants to take yalls child to see his mom, then you're going as well.

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