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Go to the school and have a sit down with the principal, teacher, and my child all together.

Ask the teacher to clarify the bathroom policy depending on the child’s age (I mean if they’re 15 they can probably tell you the whole story). There are several reasons why the teacher didn’t “let” the kid go to the bathroom that may be legitimate.

@Macdalia that part. that way you get everyone on the same page as far as bathroom expectations and allowances and such.

Speak to the headteacher, better get ahead of it. This happened to my sister when she was younger, she had a medical condition making her need to go frequently. She ended up with an infection from trying to hold it.

Keep open ears as the teacher may want to use this moment to say my child misbehaves in their class doing xyz. I’m not a “not my baby” parent, but I also believe most parents have an idea on what their child is capable of. If it sounds legit, “thank you for letting me know how my child is behaving. However, if she was becoming an issue, then you should’ve reached out to me previously - instead of waiting for me to reach out in regard to your behavior.” And regardless of how the meeting goes - no matter what they say my child is doing - it will be made clear that they were wrong in telling my child she couldn’t use the bathroom and they will not be doing it again. Or else my child needs to be removed from their class as her physical needs are being ignored. (I will say there are small exceptions but I doubt they’d be the case if my kid came home to tell me about it)

How old is your daughter? I know in my son’s school they try to promote going toilet during break/play/lunch time as they have plenty of opportunities to go. Just speak to her teacher tomorrow, it’s that simple.

Just speak to them. My kid said this and when I questioned further they are only not allowed to go right after coming in from lunch or break time as they should have gone whilst they were out. You need the full story especially if it’s a young child.

@Lara The idea is reasonable so they’d go during the break - however they still shouldn’t be telling the child no because if they gotta go they gotta go

i would assume it was an inappropriate time to use the bathroom then and make sure my child did eventually go. kids say things like this all the time but the reality is like they’re already lined up to go out to the playground, they ask to go to the bathroom and get told no because they’re already going to be walking to the playground where they can use the bathroom