Help I don’t know what to tell her…
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Part of it could be PPD along with not recognizing her normal self. I struggled a lot initially because I also had an emergency c-section and bloated up a lot afterwards so I actually gained weight from having the baby because of fluid retention. Perhaps if you’re able to, offer to help with her and going on walks together when you hang out. Remind her it took almost a year to make that baby and her body needs time to recover. Find her some inspirational post partum health and fitness accounts to follow, there are a few on IG who have had multiple babies and it’s encouraging to see their progress with the later ones and know with consistent effort we can get back to a healthy and strong place.
I’d encourage her to talk to a professional. Sounds like it might be more Post Partum Depression. Helping her understand there is no shame in seeking guidance how to feel herself again. I didn’t realize how many of my “issues” were linked to PPD and I’m so glad I got help. If it’s PPD they can help. If it’s just a weight issue, they can help guide to healthy avenues of working to become more fit. Self image is a lot more than just weight though
Thank you verybody for your input
I had my kids 17m apart and I’m 8.5m pp with my second. I don’t love how I look-acne, saggy boobs, stretch marks, up over 50 lbs still, pp hair growth has become grey hairs coming in and let’s not even talk about the “mom shelf”. I do workout and try my best but I honestly hate when ppl say the line about giving yourself grace blah blah blah. Some ppl bounce back and some just don’t. I’m one that doesn’t and I kinda resent anyone that does! I wouldn’t say mine comes from a place of depression though or that “my kids ruined my body” or anything like that. I think it’s just things people don’t prepare you for! I’m not the same person I was when my husband married me! I’ve changed physically, mentally and emotionally, I think just being there for her and just being a listening ear is helpful. Maybe offer to go for walks with her or to watch the baby so she can go to the gym? Cook meals together?? Offer her support and encouragement!! That’s what I would want
Ask her why , why she’s so unhappy with it , and kind of try to find the deeper reason behind it , and as she says “oh my arms are flappy “(idk ) give her a functional reason for the flap , if she says “oh my stomach is fat “ (or whatever ) remind her that that is probably one of her baby’s favorite places to lay and it’s soft for a reason