Finding things difficult

No judgement please but advice welcome. I am finding it really tricky at the moment raising my SD when I am finding her personality really unlikeable. I am 38 weeks pregnant as well so emotions are high but she keeps behaving in ways that make me really frustrated to be around her. - She asks questions despite knowing the answer eg. Will see that I’ve just hoovered and will ask if I am going to Hoover today? - She will tell me that she is going to make her lunch because she “always makes lunch” and when I say “no you don’t, I make your lunch and I’ll make it in a minute” she will look at me and say “I do normally make it.” When that’s a lie. - She will come home from school and tell me XYZ happened eg her friend wouldn’t let her play at lunch time making her upset, and when I check in with the school to see if they can keep an eye they tell me this isn’t the case and she was happy at lunch time? - She will tell my son (her brother) to throw soil across the garden, and I’ll say that’s not the type of behaviour I expect to see but she will encourage him slyly to misbehave - She calls me cute eg will walk past me and go “aww you’re so cute” and I find that weird to call your parent cute. Amongst other things I’m finding her really difficult to be around and struggling to find any endearing qualities. Any tips?

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I’m sorry you’re feeling this way but it’s probably the pregnancy hormones that are playing a trick on you and making you feel strung out. The examples you listed sound like harmless kid behaviour. Try to focus on preparing for the arrival your new baby and everything will feel normal again soon! ❤️

@Lora I think you are right and hope it will pass. Luckily she has no idea I feel this way so I’m managing to keep a good act up.

No advice, sorry, my SD also does a lot of these things, and since having my own baby, my tolerance for it is a lot lower. Same as you, though, she doesn't know, and I'm hoping it will get better as my hormones settle down

I feel as though she is trying to push your buttons. Has her dad stepped in to say anything? I was brought up in blended families and am currently in one and no behaviour like that has occurred. Maybe she’s doing it for a bit of attention? X

@Shelby yes her dad is really good and reminds her what behaviour we expect to see and what we don’t. I think it probably is for attention as she doesn’t have a very involved mum, so when mum disappears she tends to do these behaviours more and then they settle when mum is more involved. Hard to navigate. Thank you for your reply x

@Bethany I think hormones do play a huge part in tolerance because with my son when he was first born I found SD more irritating then and then it settled and is worsening again at the end of the pregnancy.

I agree then fully for attention, girls lash out like that - know it’s hard stick at it I’m sure you’re doing a good job 🤍 x

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