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@Kris PPD does NOT cause one to get angry and be mean. Postpartum rage is what causes one to get angry and be mean
@Abby That may be true. And I’m not disputing your logic. It’s also true that feelings of depression can lead to anger though. When things get rough, how a person handles it can manifest in several different ways.
@Abby Prob good to still seek additional support.
@Kris There has actually been research to prove you wrong. Depression has nothing to do with anger
@Abby can you show us this research? Shaming another mother for her emotions postpartum is not the way. Nobody knows why she’s feeling what she’s feeling and perhaps a postpartum mental health professional would be a better person to assess this than a random person on the internet passing judgment. Hormones can do so much to our bodies but not only that, it’s also all the environmental changes. Incognito - I’m glad you recognised this but please don’t beat yourself up. Is it possible that you were angry because there was so much going on and lack of sleep and NOT your little on? Be kind to yourself too.
@Ewa Abby blocked me. I thought her comments had been deleted but I see you’re responding to something. Wow.
All I’m going to say is let’s just all be kind to each other, we all have different experiences and being a parent to a tiny person/people is so so challenging at times. All we can do is our best and encourage each other to get support when needed, whatever the reason ❤️
I've been having the same issues. My second sons scream is so bad. More high pitched and loud. I struggle to sooth him. Its like a wave of anger grows over me. I walk away for a few minutes to try and calm down. I keep telling myself it won't last. Please don't feel guilty. As second mums we are more tired and it is on us to change our attitude towards our children but it dosnt mean we don't get cross. I caused issues with my own mother and I was the second child. We all have room to grow mum and I love each other very much.
@Kris i did when i was 2 months pp and i did have severe ppd that presented as rage. I felt the complete loss of control over every aspect of my life and my self(body, spirit, and emotions). My baby was incobsolable with colic and my toddler was at a transitional stage and my husband was supportive but he didnt understand what i was going through and labeled me as 'crazy'. Things are so much better now, but my rage is lingering around and I'm not sure why or what to do 😢
@Ewa thank you mama! Lack of sleep is a real thing it has been 2.5 years where i only sleep 5 broken hours a night at MOST
@Samantha this!!!! Same situation here. I noticed that once i am able to emotionally regulate in the moment, like in those moments where i feel that wave of anger take over, that my baby and my toddler both become less fussy and i am able to take back a little control and understand what they need. Its MUCH harder for me with the baby, high pitched screams and i run out of things to do and it escalates. I have friends who have little ones that cry like every baby does, but are so chill and playful. I missed this with both my boys in the baby stage. I wish i could play with my nugget and have those amazing bonding moments and not having that makes me sad
@Samantha since I've been practicing to remain calm and to react differently, he is much happier. So maybe I'll get to bond with him and undo the damage💔💔💔
For definite you will. My baby didn't settle for the first few months of his life. He was a very refluxie baby very hard to settle down. Mines 7 months now. That cry is still extremely shrill and he's hard to settle in his cot but now his wake windows are slightly longer it's gotten easier to bond and play with him. The other thing I do is try and get my toddler involved in the play. And I go for walks with both of them if my baby is crying to much for me to cope during the day on my days off work. Try not to compare yourself to other mums as hard as it is. Especially influencer mums 😒
It sounds like you may have some PPD still. Have you talked to anyone? 6 months is still a short period of time and you may need some additional support mama.