Any other April FTMs not feeling mentally ready?

I feel this way and I've wanted children my entire lives. So that says something! But it was also unplanned and came a couple months before our wedding, so in some ways, threw me off. I think it's a normal feeling! Motherhood is daunting and it's nerve-wracking to know what's ahead. I'm just trying to focus on the unconditional love that's coming my way and using it to motivate myself

@Rachel that makes me feel better, thank you! I think because both my husband and I are planners and are rarely spontaneous, such a major change definitely did throw both of us off too! But I’m hoping it will all be worth it when we meet him!

I find it wild that it’s one of the biggest life changes a person can go through and there’s basically… not really a way to prepare for it?? Like we can buy all the stuff, watch all the videos, read all the books & ask for advice but in reality it’s one of the biggest leaps of faith we can do. I’ve had some big wobbles during my pregnancy about not feeling ready or worrying I won’t take to being a mum but now I’m literally like a day away (c-section weds) I am just sort of letting go and what will be will be 🤍

@Callie leap of faith is such an accurate way to describe it! I hope everything works out for you and your little one, and all goes well on Wednesday 🙏🏻

Amen to this.... I too have my section sometime next week, and I can't help but worry about how I'm going to feel. I've not been excited one bit throughout the pregnancy as I've not allowed myself to be. I've been a bag of nerves and I panic about the baby getting me as its mother! It was very much a planned pregnancy... IVF, and the journey to get here was relatively simple compared to most. I feel a fraud for not feeling the way others expect me to feel - excited and ready to meet my baby. The thing that is keeping me going currently is that I will adapt as time progresses. I'm trying to take each day and week as it comes x

Honestly, I don't think anyone can ever really be prepared for what having a child is like, so at least you're aware of that 😅 It took me a good week or so after my first was born to really connect with her. I didn't have ppd or anything, it's just so strange. I knew I wanted to look after her etc, but didn't feel that massive love that you're led to expect until i'd got to know her a bit. Just saying this so you know feeling that way can be normal 🥰

Thank you for sharing that. It is hugely helpful and appreciated. There's so much pressure to think and be a certain way and I personally think its gotten worse over the years. Xx

@Ashley I’m glad I’m not the only one feeling this way! When I talked about this with my friends who are mothers, they all said that having the lowest level of expectations (especially about the first few months) is probably a better approach than when people expect unicorns and rainbows and then get thrown into the deep end of the trenches, sleepless nights and screaming babies. So if the first few weeks are even a TINY bit better than what I expect, then great, if not, then that’s what I’ve been preparing myself for 😅 either way, we’ve got this!

@Kate this helps a lot and definitely takes off some more of the pressure knowing that it doesn’t have to be immediate love at first sight and that it’s normal, thank you 🙏🏻

I’m about to have my second baby and, although I know the absolute joy that is to come, I’m still apprehensive! Not about the tiredness/post-partum as I know I’ve dealt with that before but just with the fact our life is going to change massively for a second time, along with our toddler’s life! I got my c section date yesterday and didn’t feel the immediate excitement that I was expecting! Honestly though, the worry about sleepless nights, body image etc is really real but it is completely and utterly outweighed by how much happiness your baby brings to your life. It might not feel like it immediately and that’s not a problem, but even in the moments of exhaustion, you’ll feel that gratitude and wonder what you were worried about! 🫶🏻

I think I’m just absolutely clueless even with reading all these posts and different blogs etc! Mental how nothing can actually prep you. This pregnancy was definitely wanted, but I still feel super overwhelmed! My section is in 2 weeks - good luck mamas - we got this! X