Sadness/not feeling happy about pregnancy

I feel like being sad at times/disappointed in certain situations you've found yourself in is totally reasonable. I also think that some days definitely weigh heavier than others. If you ever need someone to vent to, definitely feel free to reach out. We've all joined this community to find support in those that may relate or can at least lend an ear during hard times, as well as good times. ♡ Hang in there.

So listen.. you got this. I promise you you got this. It's ok to feel like you don't, and maybe right now you don't. Shit will get better. With my first born, we were trying for a while then we stopped because the whole lockdown made both my partner and I lose our jobs. We had to move in with my parents (Narcissistic hoarder mother). Well I was apparently already pregnant. I felt so guilty for feeling so hopeless and depressed. All of the guilt emotions were slamming through me. I felt this almost my entire pregnancy..the depression and detachment was unreal. I did love my baby, but I also couldn't help but feel..honestly, like you describe yourself. Our situation was so stressful with everything and living with my mom, my partner and I even started to grow distant to each other. Fast forward 4 years later, and my partner is my husband, we moved out of my parent's house, and we both absolutely love our son. He's such a cool kid, and once you get past that initial "your life is changed" phase, it's so awesome

My husband and I have communicated a lot about the past, we love each other, and realize those times were just really...really rough. Seriously though, it's easier to bond with your baby several months postpartum after your hormones have cooled a little bit. It's ok. Now with our second coming in June, it's a whole lot better this time around. Hang in there. The first is tough. Just remember that things are usually darkest before the dawn comes

@Maia thank you that means a lot! I def will reach out, I felt so bad for a sec bc I know I’ve always wanted kids and a girl :) I guess I’m just going to have to take it day by day!

@Sierra awww!! I’m so happy you guys got out of that situation and how stressful it may be living with other ppl especially those who are toxic. Thank you for the advice!! I’m definitely going to hang in there bc now I have someone who depends on me. Yeah the situation may not be good right now but like you’ve described things will get better. I’m still in shock everyday that I’m pregnant and sometimes get scared I won’t have an attachment to my child but I know this too shall pass ❤️

I’m in the exact same boat smh. Then, I feel bad because it’s unfair to my daughter but yeah, her dad has not made this experience a good one.

@Rebecca Times are tough but you're tougher. ♡

@Ashtyn yeah it takes the joy and the full experience away. Like I wanted to do family photo shoots while pregnant etc but I felt more sadness stress, arguments then joy and I only got 3 months left :/ but I know when the baby get here things may be different and a different sense of love

@Maia you’re right, just gotta remind myself this too shall pass bc babies feel every emotion even when you cry and that makes me sad

@Rebecca don't be too hard on yourself. I was VERY stressed my first pregnancy and my kiddo is totally okay. The hormones you're experiencing absolutely don't help in any way so remind yourself that you're only human and your baby will be just fine. It helps a lot when you can take some of the pressure off of yourself.

I’m literally going through the exact same thing right now. Me and my bd are not in a good place and I’m having a girl in June. This pregnancy wasn’t planned and as a first time mom it’s been really hard to enjoy my pregnancy. I go though feelings of not wanting a baby right now ,as well but it comes and goes.

We will both get through this!💕 sending hugs

Literally how i feel right now and the reason why i joined this app today. I hope things get better for you.

@Tyler thank you love you!! We definitely will❤️

@DeMeleena yes!! Some days good some days bad but I feel like once we hold our baby it will be a whole different feeling

@Maia yeah you’re completely right thank you!! I just know when my baby comes it’ll be a whole different experience:) and it’s ok for everyday to not go how I planned. I’m just going to keep a calm mind and just realize that my baby needs me more than anything even if some days I don’t feel like it.

I had a really sad day today too the moods definitely come and go, I just feel mostly detached from my husband, we are so busy we don’t have time or make time for sex anymore and I’ve had BV and yeast on and off this whole pregnancy it’s terrible!! I’ve been so sick this whole pregnancy it creates resentment towards my baby like life would be a lot easier if I didn’t get pregnant. Work is extremely demanding and busy and I’m working constantly until the tax deadline so it’s a struggle. We will get through this 😔

Oh girl! I’ve been there 🫶🏼 and my gosh, I was SO confused because the ONLY thing I ever knew in life I wanted…. Was to be a Mom 🤰🏼 . We tried for 2 years to conceive and once we did, I struggled so so bad through the first 3 months especially. I was never sick, I was very rarely nauseous, and for all intents & purposes, I had an amazing first trimester aside from some exhaustion. But I was so depressed and it wasn’t until I stopped the extra progesterone I was on from my fertility clinic, that I started to feel a little bit better. I think the high levels of progesterone definitely affected my moods. Going forward the rest of the pregnancy I was pretty OK, but the idea of everything changing and me never having any time to myself again and the responsibility of it all felt like the biggest weight in the world. Even up until the day of my C-section, my husband got in the car and he was all excited talking about what we were doing today and how he was waited his whole life for this…..

… and I just said to him nope. All we’re doing today is going for an appointment. I cannot handle anything more. So as far as this drive, we are just gonna talk about how today is another prenatal appointment. I’m not ready for this. I had also spent the two days leading up to my C-section, just crying constantly because I was not ready. And it turns out motherhood is so much harder than I thought it would be. But also so much more amazing and rewarding and I had no idea I could love someone this much . But girl do not feel like a terrible mom or person for not being excited especially not all the time. This is a huge, huge change and something we’ve never done before. And it’s normal to be overwhelmed and scared and not excited for this.