Wow

There’s another one, saying are you more of a mother if you have a ‘natural’ birth 🙄

@N 💞 well yeah because obviously having a c-section takes away the fact you just carried it for 9 months and now have a baby in your arms. Deffo less of a mother. This is sarcasm btw. People are so dumb 🤦🏼‍♀️

@Lauryn so dumb! It’s clearly the same person that’s posted both as well. Now saying ‘I don’t know why people are mad I’m only asking’ Like, it’s a loaded question, with implications behind it - clearly people will get mad!

I guess I better return those birth certificates and hand them back since I didn’t give birth properly 😂

They are very incomparable but either or doesn't make anyone any less of a mother and it is still birthing a kid. I feel like most people don't realize that a lot of the time, you still have to labour. And I feel like most people also don't realize how hard it is healing wise after a c-section. Like with birth you can tear but it's only skin and muscle not 7 layers of healing. I hate the csection isn't giving birth narrative. Although I do sometimes joke about having a removal day over a birthday with my kiddo

@Sarah wait, yours came with return addresses?! Damn, missed a trick there then cos I got nowhere to return them to now! 😂

@N 💞 my toddler is definitely out of warranty though 😂

@Sarah Etsy might take them? They are homemade after all!

@Christine I joke that my son got evicted 😂

Sorry what ? Did I read that correctly 🫨

They just deleted the other one now

Personally, I would of given anything to have 2 natural births but my body had other ideas, I think this person needs to go educate themselves before writing such a silly question

@Toni honestly though, I wish I didn't have to have a c-section. And now I'm waiting longer than I would like to to have my next one so I could try a VBAC

I had a natural birth but most of the women in my family have had an emergency C-section. None of them could even sit up in bed for weeks because of the mess it made of their bodies cutting through all of those layers of tissue! C-sections are by no means the "easy way out" and I'm so tired of reading this drivel! Some of them were nervous about speaking to me after I had a natural birth as they were worried because they didn't. It's so sad. When people asked me my birth plan, I always said let's see what happens because you just never know and I didn't want to have all of these hopes and dreams. A healthy baby is the aim! Let's lift each other up Mamas 💕 we are superheroes xx

This also something that really doesn’t come up much in real life. Especially when your kid is past the baby stage, unless you’re having a conversation specific to giving birth. Like do you even know whether half of your friends/acquaintances/relatives had c sections or not?? People are weirdly fixated on this on the internet.

People have too much time on their hands, honestly

@N 💞 yeah it’s ridiculous! I take my hat off to women that went through a c-section, the thought of it absolutely terrified me more than a vaginal birth because of the recovery etc afterwards. Either way, I strongly believe that it doesn’t matter. What matters is a healthy mum and baby at the end of it and I don’t understand how anyone can have strong views on either 1, just do what what works/what has to happen for you and stop worrying about everyone else. I wonder if it could have been posted by someone who is ashamed of her C-section because of the sucky narrative around it? In which case it is very sad, but it was most likely by someone who had a vaginal birth and now thinks she deserves a medal

I laboured over 30 hours before having an emergency c section to save my life. Without it, my son wouldn’t have a mother and may not have even survived himself. People need to understand it’s not always a choice and I’m so glad I’m here to be a mother to my son.

I had to push my baby out at 20 weeks still …. He was delivered naturally and with his wings already attached. Then 3 years later I had a c section with twins - I wonder what makes me a mother a natural birth with no child or a c section with healthy twins - what a prat 🙄

@Lauryn having had two really happy calm sections, I tend to find these snarky comments about caesareans from mums who had a vaginal birth with a lot of trauma. An old friend for example had an awful birth with health repercussions and she told me I took the easy way out, like it’s a competition and we should all have to suffer the same. A very strange and damaged mentality.

@Sarah yeah I’ve seen it a lot on this app and have had friends say the same thing about being judged 😞 my birth would probably be considered traumatic - issues with baby’s heart rate, suction, had to go to theatre to have my placenta manually removed but I still definitely wouldn’t consider c-section an easy way out! I sometimes wonder why people wouldn’t want to at least try for a vaginal birth but that’s because of how my brain works and my own fears which I already mentioned above. Ultimately it is none of my business if someone had a planned c-section just because they wanted it or an emergency because they needed it and I would never ever judge anyone either way

This debate will never end.... Do we have to judge a woman as per her birthing process? Embracing motherhood by any procedure is a divine love that we have for the coming baby. Also, parenting is more challenging than giving birth.

I had two natural births and absolutely take my hat off to c section mums the whole process ! And healing ❤️‍🩹

My son would be dead if I hadn't had a c section. I don't understand the logic in these kinds of posts. How they come out doesn't change how much they are loved.

Just ignore people like this. You have a healthy baby that’s all that matters

I’ve had 4 natural births and still think I had it easier than anyone who had a c section. It’s such a massive surgery!

Idk must not be that bad, my sister had 4 c sections by choice when she was candidate for vbac.

That Poster is obviously some sort of idiot, like seriously it's another woman's body not your own so why does it concern you!? every woman's experience of vaginal birth is different, the same as every woman's experience of a c section is different so realistically you can't compare them at all as no two experiences are the same. As mothers we do what we have to to get our babies here safely and healthily and that Is what is important, stupid woman keep your crap judgement to yourself, you will never understands another woman's experience so do one!

@Lauryn I had an unplanned but not emergency C-section with my first. I was induced for medical reasons and it was 36 hours until the C-section. For my second I chose a planned C-section to avoid being induced as it was so painful and the pain didn’t come and go like with contractions. I had to deliver early again due to the same complication with my first pregnancy. I was hoping if I avoided the induction it could possibly help recovery as I wouldn’t be as worn out from that pain. There are just no two pregnancies or births that are the same!

My baby was breached and I had to have a c-section. My OB tried everything to turn her but her heart rate kept dropping. Getting a c-section was my biggest fear. I had to grieve my birth plan & all the preparations i did for a vaginal birth 😔 my scar area still hurts

Truth is they are incomparable but that doesn't take away from the fact that a mother still carries and births a whole human. We should be in this together instead of competing

I had an emergency c section 36 hours into laybor with my first. the weekend sars broke out they had to smuggle my husband in and told him he couldnt leave or he wouldnt get back into the hospital . i have a narrow pelvis and my kids have big heads like me so they advised me to have a c section with my second .20 years later i wanted to have a natural birth with my 3rd and they advised me with my age and the issues with my first it would be safer to have a c section ... So the drs all decided c sections were they way to go for me

I've had one of each, they are both difficult. As long as your baby is born as healthy as possible just make the right choice for you and live your life.

@Stephanie Exactly how I was, when I had my girl I said what will be will be as long as she arrives safely etc. I did have a vaginal birth and most of my friends had c sections, again from their experiences it’s no way “easier” x

That’s silly. Any person who has gone through a c section will tell you how brutal the experience is and the recovery. Imo, it’s probably harder I would think with the recovery and you can’t just be laying around with a newborn lol

I had to have a emergency c section as I had preclamsia,high blood pressure,low iron and his head was at a angle so I chose an emergency csection instead of waiting..turns out my body had gone through so much my body decided to stop going into labour

People need to start understanding the meaning of words. Birth doesn’t only meaning coming out the vagina. It’s when a baby or offspring becomes a physical separate being. Whether it’s vaginal or from the sun roof it’s all giving birth. One isn’t better than the other or less than

C-sections have saved countless lives, both mothers and babies. Would those who think this way prefer all those people have died? Because that's the alternative for many 🙄! I've had both, an emergency c-section and a natural vaginal delivery. With my c-section, I made the ultimate decision of motherly love for my child because, if I hadn't, he would have died. His heart rate was dropping when we made the call.

This is awful and as an emergency c section mother people like this are what drove me to having PPD and feeling like I’d failed as a mum for not giving birth naturally. I suffered for almost a year around what happened during my labour, I had no choice I was taken in and the surgery was done within 15 minutes of my daughters heart rate dropping dangerously low and me blacking out. I felt like such a failure because of it, when in actual fact, birth is completely uncontrollable and it doesn’t matter how the baby comes into the world you are still a mother. Whoever wrote this is an absolute disgrace to women and only interested in tearing people down.

I had a natural but know people who had c-sections and both are hard in their own ways, and both have a variety of complications and risks just as bad as the other. Why on earth would anyone compare the two when they’re both intense on the body??

Who cares whether the two are comparable? No two births are comparable. I had an emergency C-section after a failed induction the first time and needed a scheduled C-section due to GDM the second time. The risks alone can put you off doing it, being cut open while you are fully awake can be traumatic for some, and the recovery is no walk in the park. You can't sneeze or cough without major pain even while on painkillers. Either way there are risks, pain, and recovery.

This is an incredibly ignorant statement. It’s not about how the baby came out of the womb….its what you do after that matters as a parent. What you teach and instill in your child or children. How you love and nurture them and protect them and guide them to prepare them for the world. A natural birth is vaginal or C-Section. I had a vaginal birth and it’s not something I would ever want to go through again haha. I’m one and done. If I had it my way I would sleep through the whole thing and wake up with the baby in my arms lol.

I dread to think what would have happened to my son if I said no to an emergency C-section as his heart rate was dropping with every contraction I had 5am I went into labour and at 12pm they said it was to dangerous to continue to attempt a “ normal” birth so he was born via C-section at 12:57 and he was tiny at 6:10

I think all of us C-section moms recognize vaginal birth is better for us and the baby IF we are able to safely do so. I mean, vaginal birth is the base expectation! Only someone who was never forced to go through a C-section would write something like this. 🥲 I was in labor for 3 days before I had to get a C-section. Then I had an infection and had to take antibiotics and the recovery was rough. I lost a lot of blood too and threw up while on the table and was in and out of consciousness for the next day. I don’t remember a lot of special moments. I also had a huge issue feeling like I never got to give birth and that affected me tremendously. For someone to post this, only shows how ignorant they are to how people end up in c-sections lol

@Christine Me too, ideally I wanted a pool birth natural as possible but it is what it is now. I am not having anymore, I lost my son’s twin and ended up being very depressed after having him and plus I’m to old 🤣