I’m unsure on what to do ☹️

Not much advice but i feel the exact same way about someone else feeding my baby. I had planned to pump and do some bottles so i could get some me time but i’ve never wanted to do now he’s here. My baby is nearly five months and still feeds every hour so if i need some time for a shower or a nap my partner has him for a contact nap which normally lasts two hours and i just give him a big feed before! Could you hold off until the 6 month mark when you start weaning and they can drink water from a cup? It doesn’t stop your baby needing milk, but maybe seeing them getting nutrition from else where will make it easier to transition to giving them pumped milk. I think it’s very mixed on whether they will even take a bottle at four months or whether it affects their want to latch to you, but you could always try it and see how you feel!

Just wanted to share some solidarity. I feel my husband and I need more time together too, but I also feel a deep instinct to be there for my baby (he’s eight weeks). Your bond is incredible, and nothing about this is silly. It might be about letting go a little, but I expect he’d latch onto you again. You’re more than just food - you’re his comfort and security. His safe place. You and your partner are also a lot of things to each other - you’ve created a human together! Don’t forget yourselves. Do what feels right for you. I hope you find your balance soon. Is there someone you’d feel more comfortable letting him be fed by? The anticipation is often the worst part!! 🫶

Maybe express for a bottle, then go have a bath or do something where you don't watch her being fed?

I think a baby is young and needs you this intensely for such a short period of time in the grand scheme of life. I just embraced it and now at 17 months we’re still feeding but I have a lot more freedom. Those first months and year can be tough, but after a year food becomes their main source of nutrition and you get a lot more freedom back as they don’t need milk as often x

I expressed at about 4am when baby woke, he fed from one side and I expressed from the other. I did this religiously every night so that I could build a freezer stash (I fed off my slacker boob and pumped off my golden boob so I knew when he woke up the golden boob would be full again for a feed) Your milk supply is at its highest around 3am and with his feeding off one, it increases your milk coming out the other side. In terms of someone else giving a bottle, totally relate. Cried my eyes out as I almost felt rejected that he accepted the bottle even though that’s what I wanted 😂 after that first bottle though I was fine and it was the thought that was way worse. He never refused boob as it’s ultimately a comfort as well as a food supply. You got this mumma

I understand! I've pumped some just so my husband can feed our daughter but even when he's feeding her I feel like he's doing it wrong 🤣🤣🤣 it's funny talking about it, but in the moment, I can't even relax or try to get a chore done. All I can do is awkwardly watch him feed her feel stressed the entire time 😭

I say do whatever your instincts are telling you to do. If you feel the need to feed that's going to help you and your hormonal state as well as the baby. As far as alone time goes it's important to just meet with your husband and manage expectations. You can try to go on a date but it's important he understands this is going to be a time where regular dates probably won't happen for a while but it will happen eventually. It's hard to visualize that when you're deep in the trenches of caring for a baby but it absolutely will get better and more manageable. My husband and I, I having gone through this a few times now, understand that roommate time is just what it is. You're basically in survival mode. He should be helping as much as he can and you're doing as much as you can and it's a lot for both of you right now. You will get through it and there is light at the end of the tunnel and you will reconnect later. You just gotta support each other till you get there. This isn't forever.