Handling motherhood/nights out
I’ve really been feeling such extreme guilt anytime I am away from my baby. He is 7 months old and I was thinking this feeling would pass. I push myself to get out of the house and attend friends bdays / celebrations but I find myself in extreme regret always even if I only have a few drinks. Not sure if it’s the frustration of wasted breast milk, knowing my baby needs me, or PPA, but is this something others have dealt with? Did it go away eventually?
I don’t want to make rash decisions but it’s making me feel like I just can’t be around alcohol which sucks because it seems to be the centre of a lot of things involving celebrating and I did used to really enjoy having time to unwind. I don’t want to loose myself entirely to motherhood (hope u get what I mean) so I am really trying to maintain certain friendships with women I do love but am finding that I resent their choices with drinking and partying and it’s making me not like who I am around them when that’s really a me problem
Hoping to hear from others who relate/moms with older kiddos
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@Celecia ugh i absolutely relate I was supposed to go away for 24 hours one day trip and im too nervous to go. Partially because i handle nights and bed time my partner doesn’t know how to put the baby down it’s the one thing he struggles with so I can’t imagine leaving the baby on a bad schedule barely sleeping.. its so tough i worry my friends won’t understand why i can’t make certain things because they don’t have kids
@Kellie this is really helpful I’m going to save this chart. I am going to try to start driving myself home as more motivation to stay on good behaviour and commit to shorter hangouts as I was staying out for 5 hours sometimes and felt awful
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You can safely drink and breastfeed. As long as you can take care of your baby safely then you are okay. As for the guilt.. it definitely is just a mommy thing lol I usually skip outings with my friends bc I’d rather be home with my baby he’s my bestfriend lol but I know that’s not healthy for me in the long run.. I have a trip coming up in June and he will be 10 months and my family keeps telling me to leave him but my PPA is still an ongoing issue for me and I cannot be 5 days without my baby.. the longest we’ve spent apart is 24 hours. Idc about letting my hair down in another country and “ fully enjoying myself” I’m not going to have fun if the only thing I can think about the whole time is my child.. so I’d rather him be there with me..