Am I overreacting?

When you become a mom, you lose people. I’m following the “let them” theory because why put in effort if it’s not going to be reciprocated.

No ur not being too sensitive I had this happen to me too if they can respond when you reach out then they are not worth it

You should be understanding that you made the decision to have a baby not her. She is in school as well which can be extremely demanding. She has no idea what you are going through bc she has never experienced this life changing decision. Definitely find more mom friends. They will understand you.❤️

Would you guys cut this person off or just let things be and respond if they respond?

Let it be. Friendship break ups are immature IMO and can be drama. Just skip that step lol If she ever asks then tell her the truth.

I've learned (and been warned by other moms) that you really find out who is a good friend and who isn't when you have a kid. Doesn't make the friend a bad person of course but you do lose friends that you never thought you would

I would hold off on any big decisions until baby is at least a year old, maybe two. You've got Alice in Wonderland glasses on until then. Some things seem so big and others seem so small... She wants to be your bestie, she just hasn't figured out how to fit into your post-baby life (or really how post-baby you fits into her life). Put this in the parking lot and work on getting mom friends who get your reality in this moment. Maybe send your friend a meme about "when you have kids, but your best friend doesn't..." I'm sure there are some hilarious ones out there that will also help her understand how things have changed...

I wouldn't make any hasty decisions this early postpartum. People who don't have kids honestly don't understand the changes you're going through, but they also have their own lives. You made the decision to have a baby, your friend did not, you really can't hold the lack of understanding against them. I truly don't think it's about not being a "good friend", I think it's just people in different places in life. Friendships change when people are in different places, but it doesn't mean they have to completely end. My best friend has been in my life for 25 years, she's never met my 5 month old. She would have to travel so that complicates it but I have other friends who live farther who have met him more than once. I wouldn't dream of cutting her out of my life for that, but she's just not my first call anymore 🤷🏼‍♀️

I think maybe a bit sensitive. You guys are in complete different direction in your guys life now. You can still be friends and not be that active with each other. My best friend from school we talk like once every month if that. But when we do talk we talk for hours. Like you said you just had a baby and she's going through school. Both are very demanding and time consuming. Shes obviously not cutting you out bc she's sending you memes still, so I'd just say relax and when she messages you back it'll be just like old times. But realize it'll never be like old times. Friendships change and morph as each person goes through different stages in life. That doesn't mean have to "cut someone out" of your life. That's kind of an immature way of thinking. Just remember life happens. She may not be able to respond immediately to you at the moment but when she does it'll be good. Just like in some cases you may not be able to immediately respond to her.

You don't need to particulary cut her off. Just stop reaching out. I had a really close friend (so I thought) and now have NO desire to speak to her anymore. She's had such weird behaviors throughout my pregnancy and I have absolutely no integrity in rebuilding that friendship. Just let her be. I did hear that as well, you'll lose "friends" during that period of time. But I think this is good. This allows you to see ppl for who they are. All the best

*no interest!!! Lol not no integrity. Typo

10+ years, and she has been a great friend until this chapter? No, I would not cut her off. I'd just reach out and ask if there's a day she's free so we can link up and explain that I feel our friendship is suffering right now and would like to talk about how we each can work on repairing it because it's a friendship I treasure. Now if she had been shaddy before then and I let it go .... I might not let it go now that I'm a mother because it's important to me that I surround my child with consistent people. If you're not going to be consistent then it is what it is. I'm not gonna cut her off but I'm not gonna reach out. If she hits me up and I remember to respond cool, if I forget then it is what it is. Some people fall off and it's just part of life.

When I got married and we had our child 9 years ago this happened to me as well with my best friend/sister. When my life changed it was a bit hard for her to adjust especially since we were still young. It took time (literally like 3 whole years) for her to grasp that the best friend she knew and did crazy things with had grown up quickly & significantly while she’s a single college kid.. I myself had to adjust as well. Juggling mother hood, marriage and moving away from home, I can honestly say I didn’t even have time for her. We didn’t really reconnect like that until my son was 3 years old. We had a long talk, laughed and cried but at the end of the day we understood where each other was coming from. I say give it time. Especially if you knew each other from childhood. My best friend said it was like she had to mourn the person she loved since childhood and we had to start all over again. We’ve been friends for 20 years at this point and counting!

I think atp im just going to not put as much effort into the friendship. I feel like I have always done that and even when I was in school I would be checking in. I know she has time to talk because I see her hanging out with other people and I don’t want my baby to learn that it’s okay to be someone’s second choice. The last time we really talked was because she needed advice on her other friendships and after that it went back to this. So I’m just going to let it be and start pouring into what pours into me. It’s not the first time our friendship goes through a rough patch and idk if it’s worth it to me to have these talks with friends. I feel like friendships should be effortless not just more work lol @Stephanie you’re right it is kind of immature from my part to even be giving it this much thought tbh. And I really should be making more mom friends. Thank you guys!!