Thoughts on circumcision?

We did it (US) it'd a way more expensive and painful procedure if it needs to be done as an adult. Also, I know I've personally rejected men for being uncircumcised and I don't want my son facing that (literally like everyone here is cut unless they're foreigners) but I definitely understand why anybody would NOT want to do it! I personally find it horrible people who pierce their babies' ears..

Of course you have a say, he’s your child regardless of the fact you have different genitals. IMO opinion it’s an unnecessary procedure unless done on medical grounds, otherwise The ‘reasons’ for it are flimsy at best. If it was truly necessary it wouldn’t be optional, it would just be done.

We did it, for first its scary but once is healed you forget about the pain you baby went through. Plus i believe most of men who were circumcised as babies (not religiously) are happy the way there are and don’t think they would prefer to keep it. If you wanted to do it go for it

I did it due to health and sanitation reasons , ive tried to clean a uncut one and it was gross vs cleaning my son that’s had it done its alot easier and cleaner . As a woman I wont date a uncircumcised man at all its so off putting. Alot of people are the “they cant consent “ types of people but as parents we have to do whats best for them regardless of that kind of mindset. You definitely have a choice its always optional but regardless of the choice you make its has to be respected by ANYONE !! Continue to do your research on it and getting different perspectives so you can make the best decision for your baby ✨

I have one boy who is and one who isn’t. Neither one of them have had any problems 🤷🏽‍♀️ so really up to you and your husband

I left it entirely to my husband, and from what I’ve heard and read it’s a lot worse/harder to do it as they get older so it’s not like deciding to pierce their ears where it’s easy when they decide to. Plus I wanna avoid any future complications that could medically turn into him needing it done at an older age. He won’t remember the pain or after care now vs in the future

We didn’t. And it took me a while for my husband and I to come to the decision. I didn’t want to from the beginning, it’s not medically necessary and I thought the procedure was brutal.

All I know is , I haven’t heard of any man regretting being circumcised but sure have heard of those that regretted not being circumcised and then had to do it at an older age at which point the pain is so much worse. You’ve got time to decide, if you’re gonna do it then the earlier the better before they start feeling pain and when they’re a lot calmer.. Did my boy at day 8 and he was fine, have no regrets. Glad it’s done and over with. It’s my believe that as a parent you do what’s best for your kids until they can make that decision themselves that’s why we are the parents. We would get NOTHING done if we needed consent from our kids for everything they needed to do.

https://youtu.be/Ceht-3xu84I?si=dFnkp4f54S-2vZoq This is the best and most informative content I have ever seen on the topic of circumcision. We did not circumcise our son. My husband is not circumcised either. It is my personal belief that the foreskin is there for a reason. Just like the foreskin that is known as the clitoral hood on women. It protects the most sensitive skin underneath it. If we were to cut that off, it would decrease the sensitivity in that area for us. All circumcised men now have less sensitivity where they should have it. If a parent did that to me as a baby without my consent I would struggle to forgive it. But because it's so customary and cultural here for men, no one really considers that. It's truly unnecessary (even for hygiene reasons).

If it’s something that really bothers you then don’t put yourself through that pain but in the long run it will be easier for your husband to teach your son about as long as your ready for the extra care your baby will need.

We decided not to circumcise (my husband is but about 90% of our male friends are not), because we believe that it's an unnecessary cosmetic alteration. Most insurance won't even pay for it because it is considered cosmetic and not medically necessary. Circumcision is not the norm in most of the world and when people are taught to take care of their bodies from a young age the complication rate is extremely low. Personally, I also think the "match his dad" argument is weird, who cares if they match...it's not like they're going to be routinely naked around each other once he's old enough to really know the difference. My husband essentially left the decision up to me as he didn't have strong feelings about either way. There's a ton of great information on the AAP, CDC, NIH and NHS websites.

Definitely pro circumcision

I’m going to do it for my son due in July but have yet to see where and who’s going to do it :) I’m exited because it’s a tradition but. Can’t wait for it to heal after wards.

Ow that I think of it yes it can be tricky like going in a rabbit hole. Wish you the best

@Redss you wouldn’t date an uncircumcised man?? Christ alive what is wrong with the world

@Cesca thats MY personal choice . You go date them all chile . No need to question ME and MY preferences in dating the hell !? 😒🤣you too busy in MY business to notice im not the only one that wouldn’t date them

@Redss I agree, everyone has preferences, I’ve gotten unsolicited d pics and I will say those freaked me out more. I’ve been told I’m not someone’s type cuz I didn’t have a big butt or boobs, idk why we can’t have a preference too if it’s something that turns us off

@Natalia thank you 🙌🏼 someone’s preference should always be respected. Everyone low key has them and its nothing wrong with that . Me personally Im not doing the do with a turtle neck 😭 (sorry thats what I call it ) and thats simply my choice nothing wrong with that at all .

@Lennox stop being so negative gahd damn. Just look at a comment a scroll it’s not that hard stop shaking other people like you’re some Messiah

@Lennox you are weird 🥴🤢 who are YOU to speak on someone’s decisions?!? Oh thats right a nobody

I think you should make your decision based on your knowledge and what you think would be better. We are not circumcising our son who is also due in June (June 1st) my husband isn’t isn’t circumcised and neither are any of his brothers except 1 (the father went behind mothers back) and never had any issues. As parents I think you and your husband should talk about pros and cons and make your decision based off that. Neither decision is wrong, know you have people on your side either way :)

@Lennox I actually did do something lol you are just a judgmental miserable piece of specimen

@ Lennox yes sir you are the joke. No other real mom is judging but yet you are its pathetic

I would circumcise especially when it was agreed upon with your husband. The majority of these women are from the UK, where health care is better than the U.S. you are putting your son at a greater risk for infections. Since your husband is circumcised he will not be able to teach his son how to clean properly. What to do during sex with a condom. Theres alot of misconceptions about retracting foreskin etc. Your child will wonder why he is different from the majority of boys and his father. As baby recovery time is faster. As an adult, there are stitches involved and longer recovery time. Severe pain when spontaneous boner occurs while healing, which takes weeks. If your son decided to do it older, the pain would be immense. If you aren't educated and prepared for the bullying,infections, and the likelihood he will not receive proper care if hospitalized, i wouldn't leave him uncut.

@Danni ❤️😝 This is a lot of fear mongering and misinformation. Just because her husband is circumcised doesn't mean he can't learn and then teach his son how to clean himself....women all over the world who don't have a penis at all teach their sons with absolutely no issue. There is a multitude of information available from credible sources like the AAP/NIH for the US. Your entire post is based off of the fallacy that men can't be held accountable for hygiene. Also, 6 of 7 of my closest male friends are uncircumcised and not a single one of them was bullied for it. Maybe instead of fear mongering about bullying we should be teaching our boys not to be bullies.

Here in the UK circumcision is only done for religious or medical reasons- I don’t know anyone who chose to chop a bit of their baby boy off for ‘hygiene’ reasons which seems absolutely barbaric. If willies couldn’t be cleaned as they are, they wouldn’t be made with foreskins. Humans have managed to clean willies for thousands of years. I have yet to come across an adult male who wishes they had been circumcised as a child and any adults i know that were circumcised due to medical reasons have not had their sons circumcised. It really is a strange thing that seems isolated to the US to be seen as the ‘norm’ previously - however things are now changing and it is becoming less normal. Most people here are shocked to hear circumcision is seen as normal in US and some haven’t believed me at all until they looked into it themselves. Also, bullying as a reason seems very strange - how often to boys see each others todgers in the US?!

@Vivianna we literally have useless body parts that have lost function over time( like wisdom teeth) or body parts we can live fine without (appendix, tonsils) which we routinely remove. We wear protective clothing regularly, it no increases in risk of infection to BE circumcised 🤷

I feel like at the end of the day it’s really about how much you want to learn and teach. Don’t come for me but tbh I am not great with sanitation so for me I circumcised for inconvenience. If you have to clean it a certain way and then you have to teach them how to clean it. I already knew as a parent I wasn’t going to do that and his father is really hands on so it was the best option for us.

@Vivianna circumcision is also not for "funsies" I know in the US if you have to have it done as an adult it's like 5k out of pocket and 6+ weeks of recovery with no masturbation (vs 1 as a newborn) so it's preventative too. But it's a parents choice ultimately

@Vivianna it isn't all hygienic there are medical issues it prevents like Phimosis. Also reduces risks of STDs and utis for adults.

@Tiffany utter bullshit 😂

@Lennox if they want to openly admit they can’t figure out how to clean something simpler to clean than their own genitals, then I despair. Does this mean they walk around with gammy foofs too?

@Cesca Google it. Literally Google "circumcision prevents..." And that's what it says.

We circumcised our son at a year and it was so quick and painless and the aftermath wasn’t bad either! Healed within a week! My husband and I both agreed on it! Do what you feel is best!

@Tiffany yep, results of studies are inconclusive and whilst circumcision might help prevent HIV, it does nothing to prevent chlamydia, gonorrhoea and other bacterial infections. Like I said, utter bullshit. Maybe teach growing children about safe sex rather than lobbing off a bit of their anatomy they can never get back. At the end of the day, if they choose to get circumcised themselves fair enough, but to do so without their consent, before they are able to consent is barbaric.

@Cesca that's your opinion I suppose. Alot of the women here don't agree but that's ok

@Cesca maybe people don’t wanna listen to you because you’re so aggressive. Chill out everyone has their opinions and they most likely won’t change don’t waste your energy

@Tiffany lets agree to disagree 🤝

I’m unsure why everyone is arguing in her comments. She asked for advice no need to continue with whether you think it’s right or wrong, you all are entitled to your own opinion but you don’t need to force it down anyone’s throats. In the end they are the parents and it’s their decision on what they decide to do with their child. There is no right or wrong answer everyone makes the choice based on the knowledge they have, it’s okay to educate people but no need to throw extra stuff around. This is why boy moms can’t ask these questions freely because they always get judged, I thought these apps/groups are supposed to be uplifting and supportive but seems to me they are nothing but arguments. In the end it’s their decision not ours. (Be mad at this or not but I’m sick and tired of seeing people get crapped on for asking a simple question).

@MK I know nobody near me that's uncircumcised I based it off my experience in healthcare. You call it fear mongering. I've seen men lose there penis in nursing homes and hospitals. The ratio is 16 to 1 cna/nurse in hospitals, ask any health care professional. There's a reason people get bed sores,uti,etc. When in hospital/nursing home care. If you are properly educated and ready to face the stigma once your child goes to school's then so. I actually read up, and thought it's terrible, I'm not going to circumcise. My baby couldn't pee properly wailing for hours. The doctor said the foreskin was too tight, causing the urine to back into his bladder. I had an incredibly sick baby, and the procedure saved him from lifelong health issues.

@Danni ❤️😝 I am a healthcare professional. That ratio is not accurate everywhere for nurse:patient. You can base an opinion on your experiences but you can't state it as fact. Using the medical neglect that occurs in nursing homes to justify it is completely backwards. We should be working to change the system, not unnecessarily lopping off body parts so that it won't be "as bad" when they're neglected as adults. That's a disgusting view. You just stated your son's circumcision was a medical necessity, that's great but that's not the case for all boys.

@MK Well, medical malpractices are higher here, and I worked rehab the gentleman man in his 40s and lost his penis. I'll also say that's its not inaccurate for the facility I worked at was 16 to one !! And it was out of the many where state got involved. Doesn't change the fact American health care is bad. Not only underpaid but not enough. Like I said, if you are properly educated and ready for the stigma, then leave your child uncircumcised. But otherwise, I did and would. I regret not doing mine immediately in the hospital would've saved my son so many nights of pain and unnecessary tears. The pain and recovery is harder as an adult. I don't demonize people who choose not to circumcise. But I understand the risks of not doing it and would never choose it for my son's.

@Danni ❤️😝 I don't know what you mean by medical malpractice being higher "here" since I am also from the US. American health care is absolutely bad, but that doesn't mean we should adjust our lives and medical decisions to support neglect. I would 100% be reporting that facility to the state. 16:1 isn't just unsafe, it's inhumane and I would make that very known to the state board. And I would love to see sources for this "stigma" you speak of....more than half of the world is uncircumcised. The US is the outlier for routine circumcision for cosmetic reasons.

@MK I get what you are saying, but I can't make healthcare be better or have people actually love their jobs being nurses,cna,and doctors. I wish it were better, but it's not. The stigma is litterally the internet on this app you'll hear nothing because mainly UK. But i here all the time of women not wanted uncircumcised men. In school a boy was severely bullied for being uncircumcised as well. Op asked for advice in my opinion you should. And it's really not an ideal option later in life as it involves stitches. The layer of skin has nothing to do with sexual pleasure as well. Because it needs yo be pushed back before the Condon goes on. I've heard alot of misconceptions. And it can be cosmetic but it's also beneficial and necessary in some cases.

@Danni ❤️😝 i thought i was done commenting but just wanted to say the foreskin does not need pushing back for the condom to go on at all, though some do - most dont in my experience. The foreskin moves back and forth during sex with or without a condom. Source: i live in the UK where most men are uncircumcised

@OP https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4978617/#:~:text=Nerve%20endings%20involved%20in%20sexual%20pleasure%20reside,of%20sexual%20sensations%20during%20sexual%20activity[%2020]. This is an article you can over look with research debunking alot of claims made on youtube etc. Surrounding foreskin and circumcision.

@Cesca They typically pull it back when putting on a condom though. They don't need to, but its because the glands are actually where you feel pleasure, not the foreskin.

@Lennox I did research alot actually 😅 as I have not one but 2 sons. I'm an aunt to 4 boys as well.