Ferber Sleep Training

Following as my little one is EXACTLY the same x

Worked for me but I think there’s more to it than just that. I started a routine the day she turned 3 months and was strict with it, made sure I only did nap/bed time for the first few months to make sure it was kept the same way and she naturally stopped feeding to sleep and was never a fan of rocking/patting. Still she was waking frequently not as much as you but I did the Ferber method and it worked. It can be hard at times but I just told myself she has everything she needs and there’s nothing more I can offer her x

I did ferber and she's been sleeping through the night!

I can’t do the cry yourself to sleep BUT!!! There are some instances where if your child is tired enough letting them whine and cry it out will help them fall asleep. I did this with my baby because with my C-section I couldn’t be carrying her and rocking her to sleep the whole night like she wanted so I would get her tired rock and sing to her a little big and then when she was super tired place her in her crib. Of course she would cry but soon she would fall asleep. I don’t agree with just randomly placing them in the crib and letting them scream and cry because it activates their fight or flight making them anxious but you have to try everything and see what works for you! Good luck on your sleep training journey mama!💜

@Aaliyah we’ve also got a really strict routine that I’ll stick to which I’ve been doing since she had a bedtime from around e months too… that consists of bottle at 7 downstairs then we go upstairs and have a nappy change, massage, story and then a cuddle but currently I just cannot put her down without cuddling her to sleep and strategically placing her in the cot asleep which only works 50% of the time! She doesn’t feed to sleep for any naps or bedtime as I never wanted to get into that routine however she just doesn’t settle without a cuddle to sleep… That last part is really lovely to hear though! Such a good way of putting it! x

@jayna thank you 🥰 no I agree, I definitely won’t randomly put her in for her to scream, I’ll make sure we do our bedtime routine and make sure that she’s showing sleep signs… I’ve been tracking her sleep for months which is successful however she just won’t settle without a cuddle!

@Chloe what age did you start and how quick did you notice a difference in the sleep? How long did it take for her to settle herself?

The thing about Ferber is it’s going to be awful hearing them cry but you have to stick to it for it to work. For me the first two nights were awful. Lots of crying and in and out of the room. The third night not a peep, went right to sleep. I was stunned. 4th & 5th night more crying but less! Took a full week of staying consistent but it worked. Fully sleep trained at 10 months and has slept 12 hours a night since and he’s now 22.5months (besides when sick). Since he was 10m when I started I felt comfortable enough to leave my musty gross tshirt I wore all day in the crib with him when I put him down and he would snuggle with it and fall asleep! We practiced me tossing the shirt on his face and him pulling it off for a few days before I did that though, just so I could be sure 😅

I started sleep training at 9 months and the first few nights took maybe 45 mins but now she's asleep straight away without us needing to intervene x

We did a modification of Ferber method just after our daughter turned 1. Our issue wasn’t the length of sleep, but getting to sleep without waking and screaming as soon as we went to leave even if she’d been asleep for an hour or more. We did it by leaving for 2 minutes, 3 minutes, 4 minutes then 5 minutes, never doing more than 5 minutes. When we went back in we would settle her until she was calm and then leave. The first couple of days were really hard and we’ve had to repeat it a few times for different sleep regressions, but it’s been worth it for our sanity. I never thought I would sleep train, but we were at our whits end when we first started and had already been trying to get her to sleep and us out the room for over 2 hours.

Did a modified version for both of my kids at 7 months old. Worked amazing. They’re now 5 and 4 and both still sleep great!! They have the occasional bad dream or when they’re sick, but other than that they love their own beds and their sleep. So happy we did it.

I did the Ferber Method at 4 months and I do not regret it at all. I was literally going crazy from sleep deprivation mixed with PPD. Ferber was a life saver. Minus sleep regressions and sickness my now 2 year old puts herself to sleep and sleeps through the night so about 8-10 hours. The first three days are rough, with the second night being the worst. Make sure baby is drowsy, clean, dry, fed, and warm(not hot). Make sure the room is cool(not cold), dry and dark. Think about getting a sound machine as well. Rock baby a few minutes until you see yawning/eye rubs etc. Lay them down and leave the room. I started with 3 minute intervals.

@Tai my LO is 3 months old, do you think it’s too soon to do this method? Really would like some advice on the best way to get her comfortable for the night and how she can self settle. We have to give her bottle and allow her to fall asleep on us and then put her down when she’s in a deep sleep. Would be lovely if she slept 8-10 hours overnight.

I did cry it out for both kids. My first born sleeps very well, and my second I did with her and she did good, but she started getting super attached to me and now she’s co sleeping but she sleeps all night. Any kind of sleep training works you just have to be super consistent.

@Sultana I was told that 4 months is the earliest you should try sleep training but I've heard some start at three months.