Friend told me MIL wants to take my baby???
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@Ariyana it was fentanyl, I’m not sure how long it stays in my system but will definitely be gone when I give birth. There’s no reason I can think of that she would be able to take my baby but I don’t really know all the reasons they could do it.
If you're concerned, I would confront her straight up and find out if it's true and why she thinks baby needs to be in her care and not yours. Most likely, there's no reason they would take baby unless a drug test comes back positive. But your MIL could theoretically lie to CPS and that might cause them to investigate 🤷♀️
@Grace I know but I fear she could lie to me too about her intentions. True, but an investigation doesn’t mean they’ll take it right?
They'll take baby if they feel there's immediate danger and have evidence for that. But off of word of mouth, no, I don't think they'd take baby during the investigation.
@Grace Ok thank you that’s what I thought. I’m just confused why she would even think that she could do that.
I'd definitely ask her. Maybe not coming at her in anger, but with genuine concern and openess to a discussion. She might be more willing to answer honestly under those circumstances. Because that is truly very cruel of her to be planning this.
The priority will always be to keep mum and baby together. If you’re upfront with your midwife now they might want to do extra follow ups post baby being delivered but as long as you’re clean and honest with them, they will just do check ins but there will be no evidence they can use to take baby away
I hate when people try to use this against someone. Unless you are a serious drug addict or alcoholic and have actually placed your child in danger she will never be able to to just “take or plan to take your child from you” CPS can most definitely receive any calls anonymous or not and they have to look into it seriously before being able to do anything. Please do not stress about this especially if as you say you are now clean and staying clean and you have a decent place to live you have nothing to worry about. And IF it comes to happen that she makes any calls about it make sure you tell CPS that you know who it is and that she was already threatening in early pregnancy to take your child away because she’s a bitter ass lady who probably knows her son is a shitty person and automatically is assuming you can’t be a good mother. And that if anything were to happen where you might need help taking care of the baby YOUR family would be first on that list and not that crazy…
Mentally unstable lady. Also, if they ever do come out to you about a call what they do is come check your home out make sure there isn’t anything concerning around, that you have a safe and clean home, and food in the fridge. Just a friendly visit and when you have nothing to hide it’s even better because you can just welcome them in and let them do their job and they’ll know when someone is just making those calls out of BS spite or whatever. I know because of my kids father having a history of drug abuse and overdosing with the kids while I was at work and I had to go through the process to make sure I was a fit parent and clean which I was and I didn’t know much about his drug addiction then. Fast forward years, he also go into a relationship with a girl who brought some trouble into his life despite him being clean for years and her family and ex BD called CPS on them both and had to go through the process. Her ex called me and told me what was going on so I wasn’t blindsided…
At least and even got the call from CPS myself and they came to check my home out which I willing accepted as I had nothing to hide and since we legally have custody agreement of sharing our kids none of his stuff would affect me anyway. If there was anything serious going on at dads that was endangering them I would get full custody anyway. Thankfully he got through it and everything was fine. Hope this helps, good luck and try not to stress about it!
@Amy I don’t have a midwife yet just drs is it recommended I get one? Thank you!
@Brenda I know! She saw me get clean as soon as I found out I was pregnant she knows I’m in detox and want to do my best for the baby. I’m still only 6 weeks along so I doubt it’ll come out with any drugs in our system unless when I get the epidural it shows up? My dad said I could stay with him since he’s supportive of the baby and like I said my family is much more stable in every way of taking care of another person, she does not have the time, money, or space at home to take care of a baby especially without me. My family would. It’s exactly that too… She judges me based on her son which is just unfair because that’s who he is, not me. I don’t even know if he will be clean when I give birth. I’m so sorry you had to go through that but I’m glad it worked out in your favour! And your comment was very helpful thank you 🙏
@Ariyana I can’t see your full comment I only see a notification with the first few words so I don’t want to respond without knowing what you said.
What kind of drugs if u don’t mind sharing? As long as they’re no longer in your system you should be fine. My sister had the same problem, your babies first poop is tested when they’re born. So if all tests come back negative there is 0 chance or reason they can take ur baby