Who avoids mentioning contact naps to family because they say stupid things?

I just get rude with people that continue to offer ridiculous advice to me regardless of who they are. They stopped immediately after and haven’t done it again since. Play stupid games win stupid prizes 🤷🏼‍♀️

My in laws went out and bought a ridiculously expensive baby bouncing chair so that I’d occasionally put my daughter down. They were deeply concerned about the fact that I held her while she napped in the day and told me I needed to just let her cry it out to be able sleep. I absolutely refused. She now has a very healthy attachment and can nap anywhere. I don’t regret a single contact nap. If anything I miss them so much. Don’t let anyone take that from you.

My daughter contact naps on me twice a day and won’t settle at night if she doesn’t get to snuggle into me before I move her to her crib. If I try to make her nap anywhere but me during the day it’s a screaming battle. I’d rather enjoy the cuddles and quiet time while she’s still giving me them tbh.

@Skye when I do this with my mum I get into a big argument 😔

@Taylor how old is she now? Honestly I regret not leaning into contact naps a lot earlier, maybe even cosleeping!

@Sarah🌼 for me it is exactly the same! And I sleep when she sleeps in the day too, and when she rouses, often she relatches and we both go back to sleep.

She’s 17 months now. Babies need contact. They need that comfort. It’s only natural to have that connection

I don’t avoid mentioning it. I contact nap in an empty dimmed room when indoors or in the carrier when out or about. I mostly ignore people who make comments or tell them I won’t put my baby down, if I’m not complaining then there’s no need for them to and that I don’t want to hear it. They can act concerned all they want, I want my baby to sleep well and wake up refreshed. I don’t see why anyone should argue with a mum about a parenting decision that is nurturing her baby 🤨

We live far away from my family too and I video called my parents the other day when my 9 week old son was having a contact nap. They randomly said “we have a question; does he sleep anywhere other than you?” To which I told them yeah I can put him down but he falls asleep on one of us and sometimes it’s nice to have a cuddle. They started to jeer and laugh down the phone, saying I’m making a rod for my own back and he’ll never sleep well. I just ended up changing the subject, he sleeps absolutely fine at night! Honestly, some people need to just keep their opinions to themselves.

@Taylor it makes sense - and they're only little once!

@F. My mum wants to help me I think. Because I live far away unless I mention they don't know. But when I visited and stayed in my parents house there were lots of comments because of course they could see! Actually decided to visit less in part because of it

@Deanna how unpleasant! We've had the rod and the back conversation as well. At some point I shouted back it was my rod and my back... But... It feels so nice to contact nap and if we didn't want to we could change it. I'm glad you're having good sleep at night 😊 we have some wakes and I feed to sleep each wake. This I absolutely keep to myself 😅

Good for you! You do what is best for you and for your baby. I am sure your little one appreciates it very much. I ignore calls from certain people at this point because I do not want to deal with their unhinged comments or judgement, and I don’t feel bad about it. If they’re not going to help, they’re certainly not going to be entertained at the expense of my wellbeing

@F. That sounds like a good plan 😊 I also think how nice a cuddle is when you want one. So if I'm to treat my baby how I'd like to be treated that means cuddles!

I contact napped until they weren’t needed and now he’s almost 2.5 years old. It won’t last forever so if you’re enjoying it then who cares what they say! Sorry you have to deal with that.

I don’t talk about any of that sort to anyone. What happens behind closed doors at home stays at home. My MIL lives w us and she doesn’t even know if we cosleep, or baby sleeps on the bed or crib or anything, I don’t talk about it. As long as it’s working for me and I don’t need advice on it, I don’t tell people. I only tell people if I’m talking to another mama and she states that’s what she does and I say oh yeah we do the same - for solidarity, so she doesn’t feel so bad doing it. Otherwise I don’t offer info. People don’t know I BF until 3 except the people that actually see me do it, or mums that are doing the same (extended BF) otherwise it’s just info I don’t care to be judged on. (Because it’s working, to put him to sleep in 5mins flat etc) Don’t willingly tell people esp if you know their answer is going to be negative

If they have something to say I tell them they can always step in and help. It's my child and if he's comfortable in my arms then my arms it's. Of course I try for non contact sleeping but if he's not having it I'm not forcing it. Remember your lo looks to YOU for comfort. Do what you feel is best and don't back down from it or apologize to anyone for that matter. My lo's great grandmother, on his dads side, tried to say something once and I just looked her dead in the eyes as I continued to rock my son to sleep in my arms. Keep it up mama you got this ❤️

Tbh it gets into an argument with mine as well but I’m not backing down on unsolicited advice. Especially when it’s wrong in the first place! I hope you catch a break soon girl x