Starting to hate being a mom

It does get easier kids are always more hard work for their mums than they are for anyone else. Maybe try doing an hour of quiet time a day it works really well with my 3 boys and helps stop n from getting overwhelmed and over stimulated xx

@Kay-louise what do you do during quiet hour

Usually put on a movie and then put out 2 or three toys/ activities a book and snack plate I usually do it over or near lunchtime xx

My family and husband constantly say “he doesn’t do this when you’re not around” and it makes me want to leave. I can’t stand it and then you have those that say “you’re his safe space. That’s why” like that’s some sideways way of comforting me cuz it’s not comforting at all.

Do you have time alone for yourself to rest and recuperate without the toddler.? I think it's definitely more difficult for the mother. It's your body and brain and hormones that went through all the changes of pregnancy, and postpartum and constant mental and emotional load for childcare on top of general adulting. I think you'll need to work out a regular schedule with partner or family where you have quality and regular down time so you don't burn out. I have a 4 and 2 year old and deep in the trenches and getting alone time with two is harder, but For me personally, time alone is essential otherwise my skin start to crawl with toddler needing me. What I do is, I get Saturday morning as alone time to lie in, do something for myself alone. And most of our celebrations, my 'gift' is time away..e.g birthday, valentine, anniversary, mother's day..what I say I want is either a meal away, visit something alone, lie in etc ..I see my kids everyday, I need some time to miss them and they miss me 😂

@Aderonke this makes so much sense I need to give it ago