First year

The first few months deffo took a toll it was so bad . He’s 10 months now and it’s much better and can’t remember the last time we argued

I left and came back. Things are better at 18 months. But still hard. I’m mad about how he behaved.

We are 5 months in and it has been so difficult. I hope it gets better

I just went through my first pregnancy and first year with twins. It was VERY difficult but through communication and grace with time, we were able to find each other again. It took work on my side. I was so emotional and pushed him away to the point where he didn’t feel wanted by me at all. To fix it I had to find the moments (even when I didn’t want to) to be affectionate to him. I had to draw him back in and then when we were in a space of listening, I explained that I might not always know what I need but I do know that I NEED him. I needed him to love me enough to help us get through this. We just celebrated our twins 1st birthday and we will have our moments but they’re approached differently. I’m now 5 weeks pregnant again. I promise if you keep working towards the goal of being better together, you will be. This is a season and I will pass.

Things are still not perfect but the first two years were rough.

the first 5-10 months were rough. honestly he was absolutely amazing but i had severe PND/PNA, so in my eyes he was doing everything wrong bless him. once i started to feel better we were much better. i also made sure i talked to him about how i was feeling and luckily he was very supportive and i was very apologetic

Got way better!

We nearly broke but it was all on me and I full accept that. I was struggling with PPD/PPA so bad and was in complete denial. That man is a saint, I owe him everything. I tell anybody that listens I do not know why he stayed with me because I would not have stayed with me! Now we’re stronger than ever

We are at a year, didn't want to leave and haven't left each other. But we found the first 2 months the hardest, and have found the only thing that has been the most difficult is our sex drives. His has gone into over drive, and I lost mine. It's slowly coming back, which has helped us a little (I know, sounds silly. But oh well) But yes, the first year is very hard. I guess, it depends on your situation... but it definitely gets better x

Thank you all ❤️ was he having a go at you alot ? Even swearing at you ?

For us, we would argue often. He'd have ago at me, including swearing. It got to the point that I'd do the same back. We'd try to avoid it around the LO, but there were a couple times that it happened while LO was in the room and I collected her and left the room with her because she'd get upset. Even that has improved, it can get better if you openly discuss the issue with each other... if you are able to speak openly and freely and are able to work on the issue together. It can get better

@Jodi-Leigh it does