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In all fairness, most people don't feel anything this early, especially for a first baby. I didn't see the point in going in for reduced movements earlier than 25 weeks, as (god forbid) the worst happend at 19 weeks there is nothing they can do anyway
So you write a post on how to deal with unhelpful comments from people then you get an unhelpful comment off a complete stranger ^^^. Sorry your MIL is saying this to you. I think Skye’s suggestions are good! I’d just tell people to fuck off 😂. My midwife always told me to go in for any movements which was uncommon for me and I went in for my first baby a few times and never felt like a burden and always got peace of mind. Please don’t let these awful comments put you off and ALWAYS get checked if you feel something isn’t right. Mother’s instinct is the best. Good luck on the rest of your pregnancy ☺️
@Chloé Collier not an awful comment at all, a realistic one! I went in twice for reduced movements, once at around 28 weeks and again at around 36 weeks, I also never felt like a burden! I didn't before this point because the baby isn't viable outside of the womb, plus its normal to not feel regular movement before then!
Wow! God forbid if you had listened to her & then something had happened. You absolutely did the right thing! Glad everything is well, hopefully you can say things like what Skye suggested & she’ll pipe down
@Rebecca it is an awful comment, she went in for her peace of mind. Viable or not she wants to know if her baby is okay. A decrease in movements can mean theres an infection, high or low amniotic fluid, problems with placenta and many other things that can be TREATED
If you told her you had reduced movements and didn’t go in to get checked I’m sure her response would of been something along the lines of well why didnt you get checked? You cant do right for wrong and i think no matter what you did she would of complained about it anyway You can never be too safe remember this is YOUR pregnancy and your baby not hers she had her time all those years ago, times have changed since then!
Better to be safe than sorry! Mother's have also been losing babies for years so it is ALWAYS better to check ♥️ you're doing right by your baby x
Please ignore any negative comments ^ everyone feels their baby move at different times. I started feeling flutters way earlier with my daughter than I did with my son. I went in due to really bad pain and said I’d noticed her movement wasn’t as regular and they reassured me that it’s okay and valid to be worried and to go in if I have any concerns. Also had issues finding her heartbeat! But thankfully all was okay… I’m so glad you and baby are okay and it’s better to check and get that peace of mind than it is to leave it and worry yourself sick. Take no notice of your MIL she’s just being closed minded and insensitive: your feelings are so valid and you did the right thing❤️X
‘What a weird thing to say out loud.’ Never ever fails to shut people up. Or ‘can you explain what you mean?’ Then they realise how utterly ridiculous they sound. I felt movements from 17weeks with my son and if you wanna go get checked then go as many times as you want x