D-MER (Dysphoric Milk Ejection Reflex) - Anyone?
I just worked out what’s the reason why I feel a deep wave of sadness and emptiness as soon as my baby latches . It’s a drop in dopamine , and the condition is called D-MER (Dysphoric Milk Ejection Reflex).
Any other mum experiencing the same here? What’s your coping mechanism?
I’m trying to put some background OM Chanting to try and relax and focused on my body while connecting to my baby. It doesn’t always work. Let me know what’s your strategy please 🙏
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Yes - had it with my first too. I get extreme panic though rather than sadness. It got better as my little one got older x
Thanks @Andreea and @Ellie . It is devastating to feel so down in the most precious moment of all(for me at least) that’s when I’m feeding my angel. Reassuring that’s going to stop at some point, looking forward to that moment! However for me it’s going on for 3 months , since she was born, and it doesn’t seem like it’s fading at all 🙏
@Agata I promise it gets better, I managed 3 years breastfeeding with my son. Try and distract yourself as much as you can when the milk lets down xx
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Yes mama, I breastfed for almost an year thinking is normal until I read about DMer. I don’t have it now with my second. It seems like it is an imbalance of the hormones at letdown . Me personally I was keep thinking how amazing I am to provide best feed for my baby and that he is thriving on my milk. It can be hard as not many healthcare professionals know about it. (I worked on maternity) It should get better as your body will know to adjust.