Postpartum sex.
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Im also 4M PP and also feel the same. I wanted so much to have things back to normal after the six-weeks period, but it was painful and I had to deal with some bleeding. We waited for me to heal completely but, I can’t say everything is back to normal. And I’m just exhausted taking care of the baby, that when he’s sleeping at night, I just crash. I do miss my husband this way and our intimacy. I think you just have to give it some time and just be open with your husband about it. I mention it to my husband often, it’s not that I don’t want to, it’s just different, still uncomfortable and I’m tired, hopefully he is understanding. Communication and time will be your keys ❣️
I went through the same thing after giving birth. I had no sex drive, but I still helped him release some tension by giving BJ or help with hands. Especially in the shower. I used to be embarrassed when I leaked. But in the shower with soap covering you, it's not that noticeable, at least for him, it wasn't.
I used a milk pump to help control leaking. Also what I realized was that sex was not going to go back to what it was right away, especially if you don't even try to penetrate. You need circulation and air down there to help with the healing. Unless you have a rare surgical case, it will get back to normal faster the more you do it but use lubricant
The pain and anticipation of pain made me stiffen and be afraid so I didn't enjoy it at first but the more I waited for it to heal on it own the more frustrated I got
I had little to no sex drive at that point pp. so just talk to him about it! My hubby wouldn’t initiate anything because he was afraid of hurting me and wanted it to be at my own pace. And you have to remember the physical changes will take getting use to for both of you! He will get over it eventually but if it really bothers him that much you don’t have to be fully nude the first little bit. Take your time and have grace with each other!
tell him to get over the milk leaking thing lmao. it's just breastmilk. unless you are comfortable wearing a bra or something to keep from leaking. postpartum sex just looks different for a while. are you having all of your emotional needs met?