Anyone else one and done? What made you feel this way?

How old is your little one now? I felt the exact same thing 4 months in and also had a traumatic birth, but he’s now 14months and he’s the most adorable bundle of joy that I can’t wait for him to have a little sister or brother to play with ❤️

I feel the same way pregnancy was hard on my body and very emotionally traumatic for me

When I decided I was one and done I was already pregnant lol I'm very happy with my babies. I hated being pregnant! Both times. When people say its a beautiful experience, I'm like beautiful where?? Lol Delivery was harder the second time. Baby number 2 is way easier than #1. The transition was tough, definitely had to prioritize and time at least one nap for all of us lol. Overall wouldn't change a thing

Pregnancy was hard with both of my babies. My son (first born) was such an easy baby but postpartum was hard for me. I was terrified to have another baby because what if PP was worse? Well, she’s 6m old now. Pregnancy was harder. I threw up all of the time and couldn’t eat certain foods or I’d throw up. Delivery was easy. And she’s a very easy baby aside from not being able to tolerate dairy soy or eggs. Which could’ve been the reason why your baby cried so much. Dairy it’s harsh on a lot of babies bellies. I knew what to expect the second time and knew what resources were available to me (lactation consultant, feeding therapist, therapist in general, medication, well rounded diet, no alcohol after giving birth) I couldn’t imagine life without either of my children. They are 4 years and 3 months apart though. It’s been so easy 😅 my son is self sufficient and independent. Hasn’t really shown any jealousy towards his sister or acted out. I can’t look back and “miss” time with him

Because we spent so much time together before he had a sibling. Now he’s in school and I get a lot of alone time with the baby. I wouldn’t have this big of a gap if I wanted another baby but it certainly worked out with the first two. Don’t do it if you don’t want to. It’s okay to just have one. I think about a third every day lmao

We decided one and done before we had our little one. Having siblings doesn't mean they will get along - often there is more fighting than playing together! We are just conscious that we'll make a lot more effort with playdates, meeting people etc so he can interact with others. There are positives to having one - more time, money etc to spend with them. It's also ok to know that for yourself, one is what you can manage x

I was barely sold on one 😂 took a long time for me to be comfortable with the idea of having a baby, and I love her to bits but I am one and done. She’ll be 2 next month. By having one, I’ve been able to stay home with her, we go to free/cheap local groups 4 times a week plus swimming. She’s got friends for play dates and socialisation and family who love spending time with her. She has two parents that aren’t burnt out and will have more time money and energy for raising her. I feel complete as a family of 3, I don’t ever want to change that.

@Ellie she’s 8 weeks and I’m absolutely obsessed with her but I just can’t fathom putting myself or my partner through it again, the labour process took a lot of recovery for the both of us

Me and my husband are one and done. We're both 29 and just had our first. I had a very uncomplicated pregnancy and birth and as far as newborns go, our little one has been a tad difficult, but nothing majorly bad at all. Even though we've had quite an easy go of it, would we do it again? No. Kids are expensive and we're getting older. I don't want to be in my 40s with young kids. I also can't wait to prove all the people who said I'd want more kids when my LO grows up wrong 😇

I've already told my fiancé that I won't do this more than twice, and that could change as he's not here yet. I've had a stereotypically "easy" pregnancy. Vomiting and all the symptoms in the first tri, a pretty smooth second and a painful, achy third, but I still don't really like being pregnant. Some people love it and fair play to them! But I absolutely do not and would be asking for them to whip my tubes out along with my second babe. Adopting would then be an option if I had the urge for a third. Also, what Bryonie said, kids are expensive, my career has already taken an uncomfortable hit just with the one, I couldn't imagine being completely priced out of my job because it would make more sense for me not to work. I love children and I'm so so grateful I am getting to have this experience, but it's hard to picture having more at the moment.

I get you, my pregnancy was very tough and my labour and birth was scary and a bit traumatising so at the moment we’re saying one and done at the moment but we’re leaving it a couple years before doing something like a vasectomy for my partner just in case we change our minds because we are both totally besotted with our little boy x