Feeling hurt 😢 please talk to me be kind !

I am trying to keep my pregnancy private, and my husbands side of the family keeps congratulating me on my pregnancy as I continue to have complications with the pregnancy and so how it irritates me. I am Not sure they know about my complications or not but they surely don’t keep things to them self’s and have to message and call me saying they found out, oh and I can’t stand my MIL because she lives with us and her rude remarks to me and her awkward stares as I go about my day at the house is so annoying! so I am staying in the states with my parents while my husband and his family is in Canada. Now recently I received a message from one of my husbands co workers wife congratulating me on my pregnancy, I am kinda friends with her but it’s been like 10 months since I’ve talked to her. I have not posted about my pregnancy or talked about to anyone. My husband says he didn’t tell anyone. Yet more people come to know about this. I feel very uneasy about it and I feel like the stupid one here. Please tell me how I should navigate this because I feel so many emotions all at once.

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Gosh… I feel you. I lost a baby before my daughter and when I was pregnant again, I was so scared. I only told few people (at 20 weeks) and stayed home when my stomach was getting bigger. Some of my friends and family members only found out when the baby was born. I didn’t even want to buy anything until I was 30 weeks in. I almost passed out when my husband mounted the car seat. He had cover it whenever I was in the car. I know they mean well but it’s so annoying to have people celebrating your pregnancy when you are going through so much both mentally and physically. At this point. I would just tell them that things have not been easy and you are scared. That people talking about it makes you more anxious. And you just want to get through the pregnancy with a healthy baby then you will be happy to celebrate. Maybe your husband can tell them. Sending you so much love. Just take it one day at a time and ignore the noise. 🤗

This is what triggered all the emotions out all at once, because my husband didn’t tell me that she had confronted him to ask where I was all this time and if we were planing something and…. Then she said well she “had” a feeling that we were planing…. Etc. and then he wanted to protect me from feeling mad because he didn’t want me to be upset cause it’s not good for me to be stressed out. But he was also not expecting her to message me and congratulate me. I told him that he was wrong for not telling me about this, it would have been less of shock if he did tell me and he goes on to say well it’s close to the end of pregnancy and that he would be looked like a liar if he say there is nothing since there is only a month left until baby comes, and that he has few business connections with these people so he needs to seem like a trusted person. So at the end of all this I’m like go ahead tell my business to everyone I’m not mad. I’m make sure to keep everyone on email list

About my period cycle and make flyers about my business and future children planing or any kinda of goals I have in life.

Like I get it but it’s not like I’m able to take this lightly… ughhhh tell me I’m not crazy thou !

First, you are not crazy. Second, try to let it go. Now that’s done for your and the baby’s sake. I’m sorry people are more considerate and careful. You should be free to keep your pregnancy private if you want to. Until, this baby out. YOU are having a baby. No one else. I know we say things like “we are pregnant”. But the truth is “We” cannot be pregnant because You are the only one dealing with the bad and the good right now. If there are people who should know for some reasons, that’s fine but that’s something you and your husband should decide on. And if it’s not possible for your husband to ask you before tell someone, you totally deserve to know that someone else has joined nosy list so you can fake that smile when they are trying to touch your belly.

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