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Did your MIL bottle feed by chance? I’ve had a few comments like this too, and it seems to be almost an attempt to sabotage my breastfeeding or to cope with their own feelings of regret and/or guilt by making out it’s insufficient/not feasible to have done so. I’ll just be quite joking and sarcastic. Something like “yes, mummy is starving you. Look, you’re wasting away. There’s nothing left” while poking her Buddha belly (my baby is the size of a 5 month old and she’s not even 3 months until this weekend). Or you could be a bit more direct and just explain that you’re tracking her weight and nappies and you are following expert advice that states breastfeeding is absolutely the best for your daughter.
Thank you for these beautiful responses. Yes, she did bottle feed and 💯 there are feelings of guilt and regret. I really love both your suggestions. I think I will try mask with a bit of humour/sarcasm because that matches our relationship a bit better but if it gets more intense or doesn’t stop I’ll ask my husband to have a word. He is definitely supportive of our breastfeeding journey however I haven’t told him how much the comments annoy me. His strategy is just ignore a lot of what his mum says which is easier for him to do than for me. Thank you ❤️🥰
You’re doing an amazing job EBF your baby, well done! MIL are tough and I’m quite lucky with mine, but as soon as my baby turned 3 months old she started making comments about how breastmilk wasn’t enough etc. I essentially ignored her at the time, as I knew it was wrong and was confident enough in my feeding journey. But I did ask my husband to speak to his parents and told them not to make any comments about milk/breastfeeding. I’m still breastfeeding my 16 month old, and they’ve needed a few reminders from my husband along the way, but it was easier coming from him than me & the comments virtually stopped. Could it be an option that your husband has a word instead? Does he understand breastfeeding and how important it is to you? (I can take for granted how supportive and wonderful my husband is with it!)