Break up?

During pregnancy I was ok, but after birth was where I struggled. I only had a short temper with my husband. I sat down and thought to myself- why am I even mad? When I got my answer I told my husband that my body is going through so many changes right now and that I need him to understand that my temper is something i’m working on improving. Your partner needs to hear the same and if he doesn’t give you patience or respect back then I wouldn’t give him the privilege of being in a relationship. You are going through a million changes right now so it definitely isn’t your fault but I would try some of those “anger management techniques “ like breathing deeply or meditating as it helped me a lot. You got this mama 💞💞

My fiance and I didn't break up when I got pissy at him for no reason (mainly due to being exhused or hungry or both ) and he was completely fine with it , knowing it wasn't really me it was the hormones doing it mainly cuase I'm never really pissy inless it's about work 🤷‍♀️ after I had our son I was a bit short tempered but not as bad it was more from the nurses who had him wake me up after not sleeping 90% or the night during labor and having maybe 2 hours of sleep after having him , just to tell me our son had a blue spell after we was told his collarbone was broken (his 100% healed now , but I do get on to fiance of his a little rough with him since I'm afraid it's gunna re break even thou ik it won't with a little bit roughness like having him up on his shoulders then flipping him upside down to get him off )

I wouldn’t make any decisions right now your hormones can make you do things you typically wouldn’t and even after birth it can take a while for your hormones to get back to normals. Plus pregnancy is such a difficult time physically he has to give you some grace. After I gave birth to my son I hated my husband but it only lasted maybe 6 months and now I realize I was just really hormonal. Even with my second pregnancy I get annoyed and mad at everything he did but that rage was all from hormones. postpartum rage is a real thing it just needs to be worked through and you have to realize these feelings are typically temporary.

I struggled in the first trimester. My boyfriend annoyed me and I generally became very quiet, which isn’t like me. I felt I was boring as I was too tired to do much. I was on occasion short with him or if he asked me a question I wouldn’t say an awful lot, just enough though. We had a big argument and less than 20 minutes later he kicked me out of his house with 1 bag in tow. Gone from being there for me and the baby, to absolutely nothing. It’s extremely difficult. I felt and continue to feel punished for being pregnant. Hopefully you’re not experiencing that from him! Give yourself some credit as you’re going through so much at the minute. Things might change in time xx

During my labour my fiancé was winding me up, after labour we’d argue a lot. We lived with his parents and it felt like I had zero control of anything. People would come and go and I had no say who would come into contact with my newborn baby. We almost broke up, I had PPD and PPA, but it took a good couple of months for us to feel like we were a semi normal couple again. It took LOTS of open ended communication, realising that no one is going to win in an argument because at the end of the day you’re arguing with the person you’re supposed to love which then hurts so no one really wins, I’m quite short tempered too but knowing when to just shut up helps massively too 🙈 x

I think I go through a period is annoyance/ not wanting to deal with any bullshit in all my pregnancies. Maybe hormones, maybe just me but I thinks it might be normal. Hopefully things get better soon.

It was after our second daughter was born I struggled and we argued a few times but she’s now 1 years old and we managed 2 get through it all 🙂

After our daughter was born I struggled. I was very down and anxious. I felt like everything was spiralling and I felt really angry, I wasn’t myself. Your body is going through SO much and it’s so hard on your relationship. I never had a c-section but I was terrified of the possibility of it so I can understand the fact it is so upsetting that is happening instead of what you imagined for yourself. That is NORMAL to feel. I really think it can feel like your partner is your enemy when you are down etc. It is horrible! It takes a lot of work but in time you can be fine again If you need to message someone drop me a message any time its lonely at first x

If your partner doesn't support you now, don't count on it in the future. People show their true colors when you're struggling.

Pregnancy is hard, there is no doubt about it! You are experiencing so many physical /hormonal changes that affect you this way and it will likely continue on through postpartum for a few months at least. I wouldn’t make any important decisions right now for that reason and your partner should give you some grace for sure but there is something I want to add…. Maybe this is a lesson for you on letting go of control. Making peace with the fact that you wont have the birth you wanted and that perhaps things will not always be how we hope they would. Motherhood is A LOT about dealing with so many unknowns and been able to let go of the person we were before to give room to the mother that is about to be born. I hope this helps you. 🙌🏼💕