Does anyone else realized that they have chosen the wrong partner after having a baby?

Yep. True colors showed when I got pregnant. I’m sorry you’re going through it 🫶🏻

We defs argue more since having a baby…. However your partner pushing you to choose between him or your family is puzzling! He is your family? If you are seeking more support from others maybe that’s something he needs to reflect on and not make matters worse. I certainly wouldn’t want to spend time with someone who makes me cry everyday.

I have days where I feel like this, but I almost lost my husband Friday in a bad wreck, so it made me look at him in a different light. How do you think you would feel if he had to go out of town for business for a week? Do you think you would miss him or feel relieved?

My husband told me on the first date he wanted marriage and kids and he's the most amazing, thoughtful and adoring husband & father. I'd never had had kids with any of my exes.

@Katie I’m glad you said this cuz I feel like I breathe fresh air whenever my husband has to go away for work. I literally love when he has trips. I used to love this man so much. Walked on water to this man. The 360 change was totally unexpected and I still have no idea where it came from Social media is toxic cuz he’s gotta be seeing shit on fb or tik tok or something that is brain washing his ass or he just misses life before our son THAT much that he takes it out on us.

They say the first year after having a baby is the hardest for couples and that was 1000% true for us. We both started therapy (together and individually) and things took a 180° right around when my son was 14-15 months. I know that’s not always the case and I think us both wanting to work through it and recognizing we both had a part to play in reconnecting made all the difference. Have you tried talking to him about it?

My husband did change a lot when our son was born when we were in the hospital he was head over heels for our son then 4 days later it was like something flipped, he didn’t wanna hold the baby, feed him change him nothing. I felt all alone for months and after taking a little trip when we got home I just screamed at him asked him what’s wrong with him?!?! Well I didn’t realize men can get post partum depression too. He felt not good enough, like we would be better without. I pushed for him to get some real help cuz I couldn’t deal with it anymore being a first time parent is hard especially feeling alone with a whole husband right there! He got help as much as he didn’t think he needed it he did! Now it took a few more months but we finally saw a positive change and our son is now 2 he’s an amazing dad and partner to us❤️

@Christina🤱🏼🍂☕️♈️ I’m really sorry to hear that. I have a friend who is going through something similar with her husband.

First year of having a baby difficult

@Katie it sucks but it was just us for 18 years and then my son was born the day after our anniversary My husband is having a hard time sharing me. I’m tired from having to be home with a toddler all day. By the time he gets home and we go out to exerciser and expel our toddler at the playground, have dinner, I’m ready for bed myself

It’s difficult at the beginning after having a baby, but it will slowly get better

@Christina🤱🏼🍂☕️♈️ I feel like my husband is having a hard time sharing me too. He complains that I’m not all over him like I used to. I explain to him that I can’t right now, our son is really clingy to me and he refuses to sleep in his crib so I had to cosleep with him to get some sleep. Husband moved to a different room. During the day I’m alone with the baby. He has a problem if I ask my family to come over to help, but yet he expects me to have my full energy when he gets home from work. It’s just too much and no matter how much I talk to him, he will understand for that day and flip again the next day.

I love my children, but I started to hate my partner , he showed me his different face

Same exact situation for me except I sleep on the couch. I used to sleep in my son’s room with him but we since have my husband’s grandmother staying with us now and it’s definitely an adjustment and he’s now even more furious he isn’t getting any time with me. I honestly have zero interest anyhow. I don’t have family to help often and that’s another issue he has. I hope things get better for you. I have a 2 yr old and don’t see things changing

@Ashley Thank you for sharing this. 🫶🏽

Just be careful sometimes having a baby shows what a person is really like and maybe they're not for you but also the first year after having a baby mom's can get severe post partum rage and it can just snowball back and forth between partners