Hellpppp please (overstimulated)
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hey mama, it sounds like you’re in a really tough spot right now, and i can totally understand why you’re feeling overwhelmed. it’s incredibly difficult to feel like you’re constantly being touched and to also feel like you’re losing control, especially with the added challenge of caring for a newborn. it’s okay to feel frustrated, this is a LOT to handle. i have ADHD and often struggle with physical touch, despite the fact that i love my babies so much sometimes it’s just really overwhelming. setting boundaries with your babe is important. try saying something like, “mommy loves you, but right now i need a little space.” gently redirect her to something else, maybe a favorite toy or a comfort blanket. she might test these boundaries at first, but staying consistent can help her understand what’s acceptable. try to give her other sensory alternatives when she seeks you for touch,. you can try a soft toy, a textured blanket, or a fidget item to help her.
you could also try setting aside specific times during the day when she can touch you, like after meals or during quiet time. you can tell her, “we can cuddle or hold hands after lunch” or “we’ll hug before bedtime.” this structure can give both of you a little breathing room. when you’re feeling like you’re about to snap, it’s okay to step away for a moment to recharge. even if it’s just a few minutes in another room, taking breaks from physical contact can help you stay calm.
Get her help it sounds like she’s on the spectrum. Also find a way to stop the teeth grinding. She is trying to find ways to soothe herself and you’re her comfort. I am unsure of her age but please stop hating on her for it. I’d look for therapy and speak to her doctor. Rub her back sometime so she knows what it feels like. Chances are she hates being touched but wants touch. If that’s not the case than touch her back out of pure affection because she obviously needs it.