Feeling like a failure
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If it makes you feel better my son screams bloody murder every single time we change him which is at least 10-12 times a day. I dread when we have to do an outfit change as well because then he’s HYSTERICAL. It’s fairly common for babies to do this when being changed so I’m sure most people in the toilets remember their own babies doing this at some point! And for those without babies, they’ll realise one day 😂 In regards to not being able to soothe her, don’t forget that you were trying to soothe her after she was screaming in your face for a period of time whilst you felt flustered that it was in public. Trying to soothe her when you’re also worked up is really difficult. That’s probably why your partner who was in a calm state managed to soothe her ☺️
We have all been there don’t worry we finally went for something to eat when baby was 6 weeks old and he basically cried the whole time , my brother , fella , kids everyone had a go at soothing him but nothing worked he had got over tired at that point , and the lady was 100% thinking she was helping but I understand why you felt this way xxx my lo cries too when changing especially in the night I try keep most changes just before feeding so it stops the crying if that helps x
That other woman is likely genuinely asking to help as she’s probably been in that situation before! No one is judge if you and your babies cry is always going to seem loud to you and it’s not actually that bad to other people ❤️ babies cry and if anyone has an issue with it tell them to bugger off. You’re doing an amazing job and in this case you were attending the needs of your daughter x
I've had the same situation. You are not a failure. You're not the first mum it's happened to and you won't be the last. I had lots of these feelings that you're describing and for me it was more than the baby blues, and I was diagnosed with PND. I'm now getting support and feeling a little better about things. Feel free to DM me if you want a chat but if you're feeling like a failure or overly critical of yourself more often than not, please speak to your GP or health visitor for support. You're not a failure. The fact that you worry shows that you care enough to be doing a great job. Babies cry (mine is hysterical for seemingly no reason at times), sometimes in public. Think of the last time you saw a mum with a crying baby in public, I bet you didn't judge her the way you're judging yourself?
So normal to feel like this, it gets better over time. Sometimes we do need our partners to take over so we can have a breather, theres nothing with that, it's hard being the primary carer of little kids, anyone can get overwhelmed. It's not a case of baby settling better with other people because they don't like us, it's just that it's easier for others to be calm when they haven't been dealing with bub all day, so they have more patience/are a bit calmer. Honestly don't worry at all, over time you'll understand which cries means what etc and bub will cry less as they get bigger anyway. You're doing a great job 🤗🌸
Oh don’t worry! You are doing a great job! My 6 weeks daughter HATES nappy changes, but the worst one is that I need to burp her during feeding so I stop giving her milk and put her on my arm. And then she screams like she’s never going to get this food back. And when this happens I get comments: GIVE HER MORE, she’s still hungry etc. that is horrible, to deal with screaming baby and explaining WHY we are having a break from eating. I feel like a bad mum then, but I got used to that 😂
Your partner is 100% right, so absolutely let him take over when this situation arises, I do! As for the lady in the changing room, she absolutely meant well, so don't take that personally. Nobody cares about a crying baby, trust me! It's tantruming toddlers people give a side eye to lol x