How would you feel? What would you do?

I’d stop talking to her personally or not talk about my assault with her anymore. That’s fucked up

Thats super insensitive! It was a traumatic thing that happened to you. As your best friend she should completely remember something so terrible happening to someone she loves

I would let her know how sensitive that subject is for you and that you will no longer talk about it. If she can't respect that then cut ties. With that being traumatic for you, she should remember 100% especially if she is your best friend. Her continuously asking gives me weird vibes. Something just doesnt sit right with her to keep asking about something like that. On a different note, i am so sorry that happened to you and hope you are doing better now. I couldnt imagine.

Thank you all for the kind and understanding words. I also have had these emotions and I think I will express how I feel and if she opposes or feels a type of way then I know the friendship is over

i dont know you or her but simply for your peace of mind and mental health just cut her off.

Bring it up more than once is not ok. I’d say have a chat with her

She's not your friend girl. You should never have to feel this way.

Yeah I’d talk to her about it first. I obviously don’t know what happened or anything like that. But it kind of sounds like she’s making it not your fault. Like if you hold your alcohol well then if it’s spiked it means it’s not your fault… like idk she might be trying to help even if it’s not the best way to so I’d just share how you feel and how you don’t like that she doesn’t believe you or whatever. And then hopefully she’ll understand and stop and listen. Or cut ties

Sounds to me like she’s trying to say it’s not your fault, if she’s been a close friend these things can also traumatise your friends. They know it’s sensitive but can’t do anything to help you and it hurts too. It’s very easy for people to tell you to cut off a friend because she doesn’t know how to deal with a situation but you cannot just cut people off anytime they don’t reason like you 💜 I’ve been in the shoes of your friend with one of my best friends and I actually did the same and asked her to walk through the scenarios with me on more than one occasion and now it’s made her feel comfortable enough to tell me all the nitty gritty detail because though it’s sensitive, I didn’t act like it was something to hide and never speak of, it helped her heal too. Good luck mama ❤️

I’m sorry love but that’s not a friend If your friend says they were SA-ed then they were!! and even IF you were lying because her line of questioning is pointing at that, as your genuine friend why will she even question it ?? Are you in a witness box and she’s a judge or what ?

@Olivia first of all sexual assault is never the victim faults. Questioning it in the first place was already the red flag. It’s actually not her bestfriend’s story to ‘understand’, just be a shoulder to cry on. That’s all. She doesn’t owe it to anyone really to ‘walk them through’ her traumatic experience unless she wants to.

@Ameenah the lady who posted this understood what I said love. And that’s exactly my point. It is not her fault as it is never the victims fault but if you would read what I said. Questioning sometimes is a way to get her to be confident of her experience not feel ashamed and unable to speak about it like how a lot of women are encouraged to be. You don’t have to project your feelings on her. It’s her friend and you condemning her friend when she’s already feeling emotional and vulnerable can encourage her lose or ruin a friendship that she has cared enough to post about. If her friendship gets ruined will that make you happy? Lol. Sometimes take yourself and your emotions of of situations and just respond with kindness to peoples worries.