How to answer “invasive” questions
Lately, when I’m in conversation be it with friends or family members we are *always* hit with “so when is your next one coming” or “how long do you plan to wait until having number 2?”
I know that it’s mostly innocent but it feels sooo invasive. Some of the people asking are NOT close enough to me to be asking that (husbands side of the family that I’m not close to). Now, my husband and I actually are discussing when we’d like to have another baby. I feel like that’s completely between us, we’re the ones doin the baby makin’! I feel like that’s our business and no one needs to know when we plan to start trying again…
How do you guys respond? I don’t want to say anything crass or outright rude but it makes me feel uncomfortable, especially coming from certain people.
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I would say “It’ll happen when the time is right” that way they have to second guess whether they asked about a sensitive topic and will second guess asking that, because that’s such a hard topic for a lot of people. I would lean towards joking/almost crass, but I know that’s not what you want.
You could just be super honest and say that that’s a discussion between you and your husband and you’ll let them know when you are ready.
“I’m not sure, do you know something I don’t?” But in a light tone and big smile.
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I joke with my mil every time she asks I push trying back further. She knows we're not sure we're doing 2