Mental health

Hello lovely, I couldn’t just scroll by this one. I’m so sorry to hear what a tough time you’ve been having, mental health is no joke and I’ve been suffering on and off with mine, mostly anxiety but depression too. Your home situation sounds tough, and your partner sounds very rude and disrespectful, my other half is really rubbish alot of the time too but helps more since i’ve literally told him he has to, still no help in the night though and some have been ROUGH beyond belief, so feel you there about always being knackered! I work 3 long days a week too and hate my job so cry a lot and often and my mental health is shit right now. I’m trying to reach out for help where I can, we go and stay with mum quite often and my partners mum has my son for me overnight sometimes. Perhaps it’s time for you try medication lovely? I know that can be a scary step, I used to be so against it, but I’ve been on and off them through various up and downs in my life and they do help even you out -

Perhaps call your GP and request an appointment to talk it through and what your options are, as if a therapist said just to take a bath and all your worries will float away… 🫠 that makes me so mad! Being a mum is the absolutely HARDEST job in the world but my god it’s the best thing I’ve ever done too. That does not mean we can’t talk about how hard it is and have a moan sometimes too! You’re doing a wonderful job, you are only so young as you have pointed out and to me it sounds like you’ve been absolutely smashing it for your little 💙, now you just need to give yourself a little love and put yourself first to try and get into a more stable place. Sending hugs and strength 😊✨ x

Hey, I just wanted to say how brave you are for sharing all of this. It sounds like you’re carrying an enormous load and doing your absolute best with so little support. That doesn’t make you a bad mum — it makes you a mum who is trying really hard in incredibly hard circumstances. Your pain and exhaustion come through so clearly, and it’s not just in your head. Your body and mind are waving red flags because you need more care, support, and rest. You shouldn’t have to do this alone, and I’m really sorry your partner hasn’t been emotionally available to you — that’s incredibly painful and unfair. You’re not a zombie, and the “happy you” is still in there — she’s just exhausted and overwhelmed. You deserve proper, respectful mental health care and someone who listens and helps, not someone who tells you to take a bath. That’s not therapy; that’s dismissal. If you ever feel able, please consider reaching out to a GP, mental health service, or even a crisis line. You matter too xx

@Naomi thank you so much for your kind words, honestly it means so much to me it’s so nice to be heard. I’m always nervous to reach out because of my age I think people expect me to fail as a mum and they kinda just chalk it up to the fact I’m slacking because I’m young. I think I’ll have to call my GP and get myself sorted out, I think I’ve been in denial for so long thinking I was being dramatic and just thinking I’m a bad mum if I admit my mental health is bad. Thank you for opening my eyes a lot more, you’re a kind and wonderful person and sound like a great mum too. I hope you have a lovely day! And hope everything goes okay for you. Thank you so much again xx

You sound like such a wonderful mum, your son is so lucky to have you. I’m sorry that things are so hard for you at the moment, you definitely deserve more support than you are getting. I received help from the perinatal mental health team in pregnancy, my doctor had to refer me. They were brilliant and I’d definitely recommend speaking with your doctor. There is also a foundation called PANDAS and you can speak to someone on what’s app. I will get their contact details for you as they are brilliant. Hold on, better days are coming I promise, and your little boy loves you so much. I’m here if you ever want to talk xx

https://pandasfoundation.org.uk