Should I move on or not?
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Protect your peace hun. Trust me you and your husband are going to be the main examples for your children . Don’t teach them that family can treat you however they want. I was living with my bd and his parents for three years and I moved out and came home. I don’t regret my decision no matter what they choose to say because my peace was more important than their comfort. I challenged the toxic cycle and called out the behavior after two years of not being able to . They can say whatever they want and try to paint me as the bad guy for leaving but I honestly don’t care anymore ; I chose what was best for me and my kid and I will never regret that.
Having someone in your life who disrespects you will be more damaging to your children than them not seeing her. Don't get me wrong, yes you should move on but by that I mean, stop worrying about her attitude and behaviour. Her opinions of you are not your problem. If you do decide to have a relationship with her then you need to set clear boundaries and enforce them or this will be detrimental to you and your children. It would be lovely if everyone could just get alone but this is not the case so you need to make sure you only allow people in your life that are not going to cause you unnecessary problems and stress
I would have the sit down, forgive her but I absolutely would not forget. The forgiving is for the sake of your husband and your peace. You will also then be the evident bigger person and immediately set strict boundaries re visitations etc with your husband because she cannot hate you and claim to love your children but it’s the same thing as you cannot love her son and fight with her. Children and mothers have a bond. So you gotta just play it’s smart, horrible as it sounds, at least MIL’s don’t last forever 😂 one day you will be free
Nope. Unless she apologizes and changes her ways AND proves she has changed her ways, stay distant. You have no obligation to be nice to someone who is a flat out bitch to you.