My baby forgot who I am?

Sigh*** where to start…. I’ve had issues bonding with my baby since birth due to honestly crippling PPD, PPA, and devastating familial issues. But despite those factors, I have been committed to connecting with my baby and giving her the love and attention I never had. Although my husband disagrees, I feel like she is kind of distant from me. She smiles and laughs more with her dad, she plays more with him, etc. Although she did used to prefer me to rock her to sleep. We had to stop breastfeeding at 4 months due to a medical issue. And I really think that impacted our bond as well. Anyway, I recently had to leave out of town unexpectedly for three nights. I couldn’t take her with me. Upon my return, it’s like I don’t exist. She seems uncomfortable with me and she doesnt really smile at me. She avoids eye contact with me. My husband says she’s just tired, but in my heart I feel like she’s totally done with me. Something isn’t right. I feel like such a failure. Can I ever win her back? I feel so robbed by PPD/PPA.
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I will say babies will pick and choose their parents on an off, my baby is 5 months, one month it was all abt me, next she was abt her father, then she wanted us both, but recently she’s more to her dads hip but wants me to put her asleep, from my experience it’s an on and off kinda things they just jump, I also have PPD so I understand how you feel.

Babies are most familiar with their mother—especially if she’s the primary caregiver. Because of that, they may actually feel more secure and calm around her, which can make them less reactive. With others, who are less familiar, the baby might be more alert or curious—it’s something new!

What Taz said! I’m a SAHM to my 5 month old and we have (I think) an incredible bond and he will do the same things - less reactive around me and will avoid eye contact sometimes. I hope that makes you feel better. Keep your head up - your baby loves you and you are their world. 🫶🏼

Thanks everyone! I think you are all spot on. We’ve also been going through a sleep regression and teething is in full swing. So I wonder if those are factors as well

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