I'm scared

I also had a very troubled relationship with my mother. However I was a single parent for 8 years to my daughter. And our relationship is beautiful. I’m now in a relationship and I’m terrified of having a baby and being in one as I’m so used to doing everything myself, and by myself 🤣 it causes a lot of arguments already 😩 he’s a great man, and an amazing step daddy though so that’s on me and my crazy bpd mind. Honestly just take it one day at a time, you’ll find out soon enough that having your little girl will be the best thing you’ll ever do. You’ve got this 🩷

I've got a little girl myself and my mum wasn't always the best mum as she wasn't very affectionate towards us because of this I give my little girl so much affection x

My mum was not amazing and i see it as giving my girl all the love that i wish i got as a child 🤗 you got this mumma. Also as if he actually said that, eww!! I hope he leaves you be and doesnt try come into her life when she is older. You both deserve better xx

my relationship with my mum is so 50/50 but it’s gotten better since my baby girl was born 2 months ago! i just have to work on myself to try and not project on her and do my best to keep her safe in the future! the father is involved so i can lean on him sometimes with her. she will understand you’re doing your best! there’s doing your best and there’s doing things that can lead to resentment! just do your best to communicate with her as early as she can communicate her feelings xx

When I had my first I felt this too but now I have two girls and I know why god blessed me with them. It truly healed me being able to have a good relationship with my girls and give them the love and support I wanted to have with my own mom. Also my mom and I started to have a better relationship so in time things might get better but if not you still have your baby girl ❤️

I didn’t really have the best relationship with my mum growing up , I have a one year old little girl and shes a better nan than she was a mum , having a little girl has made me realise to be everything my mum wasn’t and giving my little girl the world and so much love I had her little brother 6 days ago , me and my partner don’t really have good relationships with our parents so we be the best we can for our little ones as we don’t want them growing up the way we did 🥰

I’ve been here before. I was so scared to have my daughter because I never had a great relationship with my mom growing up. We have a so-so relationship now, some days are better than others. I was a single mom with my daughter for a few years and she is my mini and we have a great relationship. She’s only 3 but she’s my little best friend and I want to give her a childhood she doesn’t need to recover from. You got this

Same!

Use it as a motivator. Break generation curses etc. My mum left when I was 11 and I had to fend for myself. I would of loved having a sister just so that I didn't feel so alone during puberty etc and no one to turn to, but this is why I believe I was blessed with 2 girls so that they will feel all the love I never had and will have me and each other to turn to 🥹 Being a girl mum is the absolute best and you're going to be amazing 🥹

Having a girl is the best! You can follow your fears or choose a different path. You are not your mom. It's ok to be scared, but make sure to take in the joy and beauty of your daughter, too. It's how you will teach her to be brave. ❤️

I have looked at the things that I found affected me negatively and found other ways to deal with this other than what I had from my mother. I know my daughter is only 5 but we have a great relationship so far. I could never tell my mam anything and always felt like I was in the way. My daughter talks to me about everything and I make sure she knows that she is the most important person to me. She understands that she won't always get her own way but that I love her and will always do my best for her. I always explain my actions if she doesn't understand. I had therapy to help me deal with my issues to ensure I didn't pass them in to my daughter. I would highly recommend this if you are worried about this