I have let my self go

Whenever your husband has a day off, schedule yourself a hair and nail appointment. I always get a cut postpartum bc i tend to shed a bunch of my hair. That'll give you the chance to have a break and do a little for yourself. Might be a good place to start

So I did a couple of funny things postpartum to help myself once I came to this realization because I felt the exact same way that you’re feeling. 1: I started to gua sha my face. It sounds so ridiculous, but it made me get into a little morning self care routine 2: I did some research and found a skin care routine that was cheap that worked for me. 3: I got one of those IPL laser hair machines off of Amazon for like $50. It worked. I don’t have to shave anymore and I feel really good about the fact that I don’t have hair growing on my body 🤣 I did a some other funny things too as time went on, but those were the first three and it made me feel better. The biggest thing for me was that I had to come to terms with the fact that I will never be old me again. I could physically look like her (for the most part), but I would never be her. That was tough and it took a long time but it’s okay to not be pre-parent you that’s part of the growth we go through.

Honestly I felt the exact same!! What really helped me was to sit down and write down a list of all the things I don’t do anymore that I used to do .. for example read a book .. get my nails done .. go to the gym etc .. then I made it a goal to do at least one thing per day that makes me feel good … I’ve started calorie counting again and I’ve lost 6lbs already and I’m slowly starting to feel like me xx

THE BABY WILL BE FINE!! As in, on the mat playing. On the middle of the bed playing (before rolling) in their crib playing. While you tend to yourself. I find it in awe how we are ALL given the same amount of hours in the day, where one mama walks out looking like crap w a 3m old and the other mama walks out w a 3m baby dressed makeup hair done decently dressed. It’s because she let the baby play independently contently (or had baby lie right next to her) while she tended to herself. Many times in the mornings when I’m getting ready my baby is right there beside me watching me or happily playing in the lounge room on the floor w his toys. I am non-negotiable. Looking after myself, is non-negotiable. Takes me 10-15mins in the morning and I look done for the day. Baby naps, I put on a face mask or do my nails or put a hair mask on. Utilise the times baby isn’t crying and doesn’t actually need you. I promised myself when I was pregnant not to let myself go and I made that happen.