Tried sleep training last night, worst night ever. What do I dooooo
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You said it so nicely @Willa ! 💕
Currently in the same situation and like Willa said, they need us right now so just trying to respond to their needs. It's 100% hard and I feel like I'm loosing my mind some days. But I've communicated with my partner & we're adjusting how we go about the night time. Our LO pushed out his bedtime to 10pm. I finish work at 7pm so from about 730p - 830p we try to have dinner together and get LO in pjs. Then I go sleep from like 845pm - 945pm uninterrupted while hubbs is with LO. Then he brings LO to bed with me and we co-sleep for the night. There's usually about 2 or 3 wakeup to feed. He just rolls over to me and latches. And then rolls over the other way when he's done and falls back to sleep.
I would try cosleeping again we do that and she sleeps the whole night last night she woke up so much i was dying lol. 😝 but ur baby shouldn't be left to cry alone for hours tbh that's kinda neglect and abuse they are just a babe
I know it’s so hard but it gets easier!!. But honestly Co sleep and nurse side lying!!!!! It’s so worth it once you get a good set up. Can I help with making it work for you? Ferber was a psycho and it’s proven to be traumatic. Babies need us. I know it’s so tough but it’s not that you’re “teaching her to rely on” anything!! They are born needing us. Look up co-regulation. We are literally their nervous system for the first 3 years especially!!
Omgosh after months of 1-2 hours of sleep at a time I was losing my shit and I talked to my lactation consultant and she said fill her up more during the day. I've been nursing her every 2-3 hours again along with 2-3 solid food meals and giving her a full fat yogurt after dinner before her last nursing session. Now she sleeps for 4-5 hours and then another 3-4. We are, however, cosleeping. I had her in between my husband and I on a king size bed which was fine but we finally got a bed rail and she sleeps on the side and me in the middle. We all seem to be sleeping better. Sending you love and hoping this helps a little
Also, my LC said at 10 months, for an EBF baby, it's normal for them to want to nurse once or twice still as they still need the nutrition. Maybe just try feeding them more during the day 🤷🏽♀️
My baby nursing like 5-6 times a throughout the night , I cosleep and he just comes to latch and I just wake up for a second so I feel like I’m still getting good sleep. Trying to work on not nursing as much anymore but I go slowly. I would never leave him cry alone. He cries when I take off boob after the first nursing but after 5-10 min of singing he calms down and falls back to sleep . I don’t rock him to sleep it’s either singing or nursing .
Yeah, I don't think Ferber is for us. I didn't leave her alone to cry though just to clarify, she was in the room with us and I checked on her every 3 minutes, then 5 minutes, then 8, etc. It was an hour of crying on and off with me there and calming her in those increasing intervals. But of course she cried every time I stepped away again and oh my gosh I just don't know how people do it. My pediatrician spun it as just a few nights with the end result being all of us better off, but man. I just don't know. Cosleeping feels like it should be the magic solution, but I just wake up feeling horrible every time. My body hurts from the awkward positioning, and I end up with worse sleep. I'm going to continue weaning off the night nursing first and then see where that gets us. At the very least if we do that, my husband can help and we can take shifts. Thanks for the input everyone!
I would try weaning those night feeds if possible. How much is she eating during the day? Getting plenty of solids in? We’re weaning the night time bottle right now and replacing with rocking and patting. If it’s a bad night, we’ll offer the bottle. It’ll take some time but usually they don’t need the milk anymore and just want it because they’re used to it and it’s comforting. So replacing it with something else should help and eventually they won’t need the rocking or patting either. Sleep training isn’t going to be the answer unfortunately and will only stress you and her out more. She still needs you and the best thing to do, is respond and go to her. They will learn independence when they can depend on you.