Why is it that everytime I agree with something it’s all of the sudden not valid because this is my fist baby
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I can understand what you’re going through as my fiancé has a daughter from a previous relationship and we have a 4 almost 5 month old son now. his previous partner did formula and I am breast-feeding as well. I plan to not do the rice and cereal (she did with the daughter) because I’ve done my research and honestly, he has no qualms about it. He lets me take charge because ultimately I am the one who carried and is taking care of the baby the most and your boyfriend should be doing the same. You are the mother you know best.
Don’t let people discourage you on learning about your pregnancy and your baby, I have five kids and I’m constantly learning about newborns, toddlers, children etc. you never know what going to happen regardless of how many kiddos you have. Just be enough for you and your baby
@Marina that’s what I said to him I said the whole rice thing is old school and I just don’t see a reason for it unless it’s necessary. Just like with formula I don’t see a reason for it unless I’m not producing enough milk or unless it’s absolutely necessary for the baby well being
@Noelle I’m glad your partner understands and I did a little bit of research and it honestly makes sense to me but I guess since it’s not coming from his mom or babymama it’s wrong idk
Yeah for a while he would compare our pregnancies/ parenting, but I nipped that in the bud ASAP. Every mother and child are different. Just keep reminding yourself that he’s a man and he won’t fully understand bc he is simply not a mother lol.
Rice cereal does not go in a baby bottle. It is a MAJOR choking hazard. Only milk (regardless of it being breastmilk or formula) goes in a bottle. He might just be misplacing the resentment of not being allowed to contribute to his first child on you.
I almost wonder was she (first BM) over controlling or was she reacting to him the same way you are right now? 🤔 Cuz you are right… but his reaction and what he said is off… Like maybe he’s saying he had no say the same way he is doing with you, with her…
@Lyss yea I think it’s how you said it he didn’t have a say and now it’s like if I don’t agree with everything he says or have a different view or opinion on a topic concerning our unborn child it’s a problem
@Ellie that’s what I thought and yea I think he is and honestly I’m tired of it because it’s not my fault that your first BM was like that and that you didn’t get to experience that
You are right that babies don’t need rice cereal in their bottle even if it’s formula honestly, it’s not necessary. It is better to have fruits and vegetables and meats.
I mean, not the fruits, vegetables, and meat in the bottle obviously lol
Sounds like he just hasn’t read the research and is basing it off of what he did prior…but people do a lot of things, it doesn’t mean it’s the best way or even the right way. It’s not worth arguing about. I wouldn’t talk to him about the little things like that because you’ll be the one doing most of that stuff anyhow. He also needs to stop making this a competition and he shouldn’t say things like he did about the pregnancy for fear you’ll be controlling. I don’t even know what that comment is, but it’s childish and unfair.
Never put rice cereal in a bottle, it's a choking hazard But he sounds like he's projecting due to his last experience. So just like have a conversation with him about how you want to do this WITH him. His opinion isn't automatically better just because it's his second kid. Your opinion isn't automatically better because your a mum and have motherly intuition and instincts. (Obviously an exception if he's suggesting something not at all evidence based)
With the rice I also feel it’s a generational thing, yes it help the baby sleep better but during those times it was very rough living and food yet alone baby formula was hard to come by. So it was also passed through generations. True not every pregnancy is the same even if you had multiple, he didn’t even give birth to his daughter and his not going to be the mother so I would trust your judgment and your choices for your baby. If you choose to only breast feed that’s amazing but there no same of substitute of formula, only one of my babies was completely breastfed the rest I used formula along with breast milk.