Struggling to bond

Bonding can take time. The fact that you have noticed this is a positive step. Also, feeling tired and foggy, especially whilst on antidepressants, is completely valid. Perhaps try to bond during mundane everyday tasks like nappy changing - play peak a boo with the nappy, or share a snack together and cuddle. Small moments like these and even playing simple games like beeping her nose can encourage bonding . Talking to her during your daily routines can help you bond too. Could you speak to your dr about your anti depressants and how they are making you feel tired ? X

I feel you , sometimes I have those days where it’s a little hard but I know she’s learning and I’m learning too. We’re not perfect.

@Rahima I second all of this! I took so long to bond with my daughter too and it was gradual. I talked to her all the time, even if it was just about my day. The baby stage was really difficult for me and now that my daughter is a toddler she’s much easier to engage with. And I can see everything I did with her, even when I didn’t feel like it was “working” in helping us bond, has paid off: she has a strong attachment to her dad and me. Even if you don’t feel like you’re bonding with your baby, you are: you’re showing up for her and caring for her and she’s just not able to show how much she loves and appreciates you yet ❤️