For those that are NOT morning people, is there a way to quickly wake you up without it putting you in a bad mood?

My husband is like that I just leave him there if he's not working that morning. He gets mad that he slept most of the day but I say well you get mad if you get up early so either way you'll be mad so I don't pay attention to that lol 🤣 plus he started getting up on his own after that cuz I went and did fun things with the kids without him because little kids are always their best before 12 pm so he got jealous that he was always missing everything and started to get up plus anytime he's angry for no reason I just won't address it I tell him to feel cranky by himself because everyone else is trying to have a good time and he needs to be pleasant being pleasant is a skill most folks need to learn

I'm not a morning person. But I have a toddler. So I have to be a morning person and I've got used to it with time and pushing through. It is not your responsibility to have to go and wake him up. That was his parent's... When he was a child. Now it's his! Is he staying up really late? If he's getting a full night's sleep most nights it shouldn't be so difficult, unless there's an underlying cause e.g. some sort of vitamin deficiency. He needs to take responsibility for his own morning, this system is making you and him angry with each other so it's not working! Mine is a deep sleeper so it's hard to wake him up, he has asked me to wake him in the past but I made it clear I was going in once and I wasn't coming back, so if he's late that's his issue. I told him I didn't like doing it and explained why and he hasn't asked again. He's also improved massively at waking up now we have a child. He has a smart watch that vibrates away, phone alarms and a sunrise clock which all work together.

I'm sorry but he's a grown adult, he can get himself up. He needs to get up with the first call. I really don't get this mentality when a grown person thinks it's ok to lounge in bed whilst another has to constantly try and get them to get up. Also don't get the 'groggy for at least an hour after', 5/10 minutes yeah but longer, no! Leave him to it, he'll soon grow up and be responsible. You're not his mother.

I’m not a morning person, we have a 4 year old 2 year old and a 12 week old and honestly taking magnesium in the evening before bed had been a life saver! It doesn’t make you get more sleep but just make the quality of sleep increase and it’s a lot easier for me to get up when they get up as I genuinely feel more well rested even on a few hours sleep!

Has he ever tried one of those alarm clock lights? It gradually brightens the room to wake the person up like a sunrise. It’s supposed to be less jarring. I’ve heard good things from my brother, but I don’t personally use one because I wear a blackout eye mask at night.

@Rachel not usually up late, 10 or 11pm, and gets up around 6:45 for work, but on weekends sleeps till 9 or 10 if I repeatedly wake him. If I left him alone he'd sleep till 2 or 3 and be mad about wasting his day. I've use the phrase "I don't want to be your alarm clock" on him several times, and nothing ever changes. If I let him sleep then he's grumpy the remainder of his day and it messes with his sleep the next night, which makes him grumpy for several days while he lines it back out.

He’s a grown man? Not a teenage boy, Ick… he should be embarrassed. Tell him to wake up or he misses the day, it’s tough.

@Claire I don't get it either. He's never been a morning person but in the last couple years (since having kids) its gotten worse. Which makes no sense since I've been the one doing all the night time wake ups since they came along. He has no reason not to be well rested.

@Adele I'll suggest magnesium to him! Maybe that's what's going on, cause I can't figure it out!

@Jenna are you waking him on work mornings too?

@Jenna honestly it’s amazing, I noticed it from the first time I took it! I’m still having to wake during the night for the baby but I don’t feel like I’m scraping myself up every morning! Take one or 2 an hour before bed and you’ll sleep like you don’t pay bills lol

@Rachel sort of. His alarms go off every 5 minutes from 6am till he finally gets out of bed at 6:45. Most of those he will sleep through, so if I want the noise to stop I have to either raise my voice and say his name or smack/nudge him to wake him up enough to turn it off.

I sleep similar times and am usually tired so I can understand. But what's going on now is unfair. He's sleeping in every weekend day and being the cause of resentment on both sides every weekend morning . That's 100% on him but he's making you feel like it's on you to find a better way to wake him up and that's just not fair. Myself and my husband have a system where Saturday morning I get up with toddler while he sleeps in as long as he wants, and on Sunday it's my turn to sleep as long as I want! This works really well for us. Hopefully yours is open to going for a check up e.g. check iron levels or trying something like magnesium as suggested above if it does work! If he's not open to that it's a red flag because he's happy to keep leaving the responsibility and stress of it to you and that's not fair. Maybe to him it doesn't feel like a big deal but it's the sort of little repetitive rubbish thing that could break a relationship. I would also be FUMING if his alarms woke me before I needed to be up!

My ex husband was like this and it was exhausting. I didn't mind too much before we had a baby but after the baby arrived it angered me so much. The thing is, whilst it's unfair for him to be like that, he was like it from day 1 that we got together so expecting him to suddenly change was setting him up for failure. It got to the point where I was being shouted at for trying to wake him up, then shouted out because he was late for work, then shouted at for waking him too early or too late. He would set alarms from 6am knowing he had to be up for 7am and would literally sleep through every single alarm. Wasn't doing it on purpose, just genuinely didn't wake up. The problem was it woke me up when I didn't need to be awake and it infuriated me

My husband and I both were not morning people before we had our baby. We would stay up late and sleep in really late on our days off. I've become more of a morning person since I have to get up with our baby every day. For my husband, it took more time for him to start waking up earlier without me trying multiple times. Going to bed at a better time really helped. And having time as a family to lounge in bed for a little bit before actually getting up seems to help. When my husband would sleep in longer, he would also get made at me for trying multiple times to wake him or if I didn't wake him. So I would start asking what time he wanted to wake up. I would try that one time and then leave it unless I needed help with our baby. Now we all get up the same time on days off. Magnesium really is wonderful! My husband doesn't take it all the time but he says he always feels a difference in his sleep and moods when he does take it. Other vitamins might help too like vitamin D.

I have a few tricks I use for myself! Cuz I'm so not a morning person, but my hobbies and jobs required me to be, and now with our daughter I have even less of a choice lol! So first, same time for the alarm every day and set it so it starts quietly and gradually gets louder, AND I make it one of my favorite soothing songs or dance songs! Then I immediately chug a whole glass of water. There's this stuff called early bird cocktail that's packed full of b vitamins and I swear it helps you wake and keeps the groggy away, but it can get a little pricey. It works awesome tho! Oh I also use a "sunrise" light that gradually lightens at a set time to trick my body into waking more easily, but you can also just open the blinds and let natural light in about an hour before he wants to wake. I swear AGAINST black out curtains (I'd sleep all day if I used them lol) for myself personally

I get up and spin one way fast then the other when I've had a bad night with baby. It wakes you up

Well he will be cranky if he keeps going back to sleep. He has gotta push through. The only person that can make someone a morning person is themselves. My husband is like this bit I drill in his head the night before what will be done. If he is excited about it he will be up on his own. If he doesn't care to much he might sleep in a bit but wakes up when I tell him get up or else he is gonna miss out. He is a man. Not another one of my children

My fiance is like this. I’ve adjusted to being a morning person now that my son’s nearly 2. He never has. I do mornings and he does night times as I get so tired at night and he doesn’t x

If he’s just wanting a lie-in and is using you as his alarm clock that’s not fair to you, he should set multiple alarms for himself. If I ask my husband to wake me up at a specific time it’s because something needs to get done and I don’t trust myself to not snooze all of my alarms. I think that if he asks you to wait him up at a certain time make sure he gets up right then instead of acting like a snooze button. He’ll be mad but less mad than the multiple wake ups honestly- if he isn’t then he can set his own alarms.

@Jenna When my husband sleeps through his alarms I push him out of bed 😂

I clean my face with cold water and drink cold water, wakes me up well. And I’m not a morning person for shit

I'm not a morning person, but I am able to wake up and be immediately alert. A morning routine helps me in the morning, which is breakfast and coffee. My babies are my alarm clocks. Maybe make him in charge of family breakfast on the weekend so he has a reason to get up. He can make everyone a nice big breakfast

I’m not a morning person at all, but 4 years ago I started taking vitamins first thing in the morning that have made a huge difference in my morning! They wake me up within 15-20 minutes, and I’m goin. I’ve never felt better - even now with 4 babies compared to the 2 we had when I started!

@Francesca i guess the best is to be single mother at times, trust me 🥱

My solution was to let my husband wake himself up bc every time I did it, he didn’t wake up when he wanted me to wake him up but always got upset if I kept trying. I told him, you’re a grown man, if you’re late to work, that’s on you. But my situation is that he works at like 3am. I now get to go to be at a decent time since I don’t wake him up.

Set lots of alarm clocks that go off when the kids wake up and set them to go off for an hour ever 5/10 mins he’ll soon wake up then Or do what I do, open the curtains and let all the light in and make lots of noise lol

@Helen this made me laugh picturing it 😂

@Katelyn what vitamins do you take?

@Sarah I take thrive by le-vel, their classic 3 step system!

Have him try getting up out of bed the second you wake him up, don't have him lay in bed and check his phone or anything just get right up and get dressed, maybe even open the blinds so the sunlight comes in