Talking to people about birth

People likely ask because their interested. Giving birth is a big deal and there are so many ways it can happen. It's as if you were going to have major surgery and they want to ask how it's going to go for you. From other mothers it might also be so you can relate and compare your different experiences, but also discuss your options with people who have had realtime experiences. Kind of a bonding thing and can be cathartic if someone had a not so great experience. But I can see how it might all feel very invasive as there is no other time in our lives we discuss our reproductive systems in such detail 😅

I totally get this - it might be well-meaning but it can come across as nosey and invasive. I think people don't often consider how anxiety-inducing the thought of impending childbirth can be for women, either. I had a difficult experience with my first delivery and I'm consequently very nervous this time around. If / when people ask I just keep it very vague and essentially lie and say something like "no birth plan, we'll just see what happens - I'm not really thinking about it at the moment" and then move the conversation on. Never feel obliged to give out information you don't want to - people are so weird about pregnant women sometimes but keep as much as you need private! Good luck xx

i keep getting the ‘oooh not long, are you excited?’ like no i’m not, do people forget how babies come into the world? either i’m getting cut open or i’m having my vagina ripped apart, neither which are exactly enjoyable. people think giving birth is straightforward but there’s so many things that can happen and i’m just stressed trying to think of every solution to every possible outcome😂

I’ve just had an awful experience at the weekend of being asked about my birth plans and it not going well. If people asking aren’t going to be supportive regardless of your preference, I really don’t understand why they bother asking. I like you already don’t like discussing it with anyone so appreciate it can be upsetting x