First time taken away from me
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I feel your pain. My MIL rubbed and melted a piece of chocolate on my LO gums when she was 4 months old and she was definitely nowhere near ready for weaning. I was fuming. I got my husband to say something to her and she just responded saying I was a drama queen. I’m glad I said something but unfortunately because she knows the boundaries but she acts different with me now.
What is it with grandparents and ice cream! My sister's MIL has been obsessed with giving my niece ice cream since before she was weaned too. I want to validate your feelings as I'd be exactly the same. Not only is it taking away a special first but it's also irresponsible to give an allergen and something high in sugar when that goes against all guidelines. Give it a day or two and set your boundaries and say that wasnt appropriate and they are not to do it again. But unfortunately it is done and there's nothing you can do but move past it, i absolutely wouldn't let it take away from your first time giving her a proper spoonful of puree or a finger of veg that's still so exciting and special. Your feelings are so valid, but please don't linger on it and let it spoil your weaning journey.
@Louisa thank you for that, it was just a tiny bit. I think her rational behind giving her icecream was to help her gums feel better. Honestly icecream was not going to be my first choice 😩 but it is what it is. I hope I can laugh about it in future.
@Sumayyha oh gosh somehow that seems worse! My MIL used icecream as my LG is teething, so she figured the cold would help. Why melted chocolate?? 😩 You did the right thing. I also had a word today, but it was a lot nicer than the response you got xxx
@Teri thank you xx I do feel very validated. My husband doesn't understand and it made me feel worse. But it's really good to know I'm not alone in this. I had a word today and she was very sorry and said she'd not try again. So I'm happy enough, I'm going to pretend it was nothing as my husband just admitted he had English tea on his fingers once and let her suck on them 🙄 so I guess the line is already blurry lol!
My daughter is 17 months now and I’ve only given her chocolate like 3 times too as she’s not even a fan 😅 I’m so glad your outcome was positive 🥰 wishing you a happy enjoyable weaning journey ahead xxx
I’d be fuming, this is exactly the kind of thing my MIL would do. I’d be really annoyed that their first food was sugar too, even if it was low calorie, even more full of shite and preservatives. I’d tell her she’s not allowed to look after her anymore without my supervision!
I’d be really upset by this too, especially as your little one isn’t at the weaning age and i’m sure that’s not what you’d want for her first food! It’s also so rude that she knew you wanted to wait until after holiday and disregarded it. If it was a tiny bit, i wouldn’t think of it as a first food. Just more like if she sucked your hand and you had left over residual food on your fingers. You will still be the first to wean her properly! I would say something now though, or have your partner remind her that she is not to do it again.