Bedtime

Yeh we had this last t week but then we have cut some sleep in the day. So she is up 6.45 naps around 12.30-2 latest and then we lie her back down 7.15 and she’s usually asleep by 7.30. Can they fall asleep without help? X

We awake up between 6:30-7. If he had a nap than I only let him have an hour any longer and the whole time is out the window. He will go does 12-1 or 1-2. Bedtime at 7 I give him milk and I lay him down and leave the room. He just end up play in his cot then screaming for me. So I go back in lay him back down and leave again. Some time that’s taking me 2 hours and bedtimes 9. It’s the same if he doesn’t have a nap.

I personally would stay in the room with him at first until he’s fallen asleep as he’s clearly struggling on his own. We still cuddle our daughter to sleep atm as self soothing just hasn’t worked for us yet and I can’t face spending hours trying to get her down when cuddling is taking less than 5 mins

@Steph he never use to struggle. If I stay in the room he thinks it’s play time. He doesn’t allow me to cuddle him to bed he just want to be put down. I dont know if this is just a phase.

Are you sure he is getting enough daytime sleep? Our sleep consultant said babies this age should be on 2 hours. Is it possible he is getting overtired which is then making it difficult to fall asleep at bedtime? You could try it for a few days and see if it makes a difference

@Steph yeah he use to have 2hours nap and it still the same. I’ve paid for 3 sleep consultants and it’s still the same. We are so going through the process of getting him diagnosed with asd and adhd. I have been told this could be the main factor

This may not be a solution but it worked for my 1yr old daughter, she moved into her own room about 2months ago and in that change I put her in a toddler bed (in her cot she would wake up 6-7 times a night and refuse to go to sleep it was an absolute nightmare) but when I put her in the toddler bed the first two nights she only woke up twice now she goes to bed at 7pm wake up at 4am for bottle then fall back asleep (I don’t go in the room) she then don’t wake up again till 8am she still has a two hour nap from 10:30qm to 12:30pm, when I put her down at 7pm I do lay in her bed with her till she’s fallen asleep only takes around 5 min for her to fall asleep then when I leave I put a teddy beside her head so it’s like I’m still there, she also doesn’t try and and get out of the bed during the night only at 8am when she will come through to my room xx

@Casey I have been thinking about getting a toddler bed. My little boy has always woke up multiple times in the nights, always banging his head on the cot. ( he moves soo much)

@Sarah honestly every one kept telling me it was two soon and gave me so many reasons on why I shouldn’t but honestly it was the best decision I have ever made and I don’t regret it at all! But that was the same as my daughter she kept moving and everytime she would hit the sides it would wake her up , yes her toddler bed has sides but it’s so much bigger she hasn’t hit them once xx

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@Casey I’m going to get one I think. He’s cot his a cot bed but I just think it too small for him

@Sarah For one nap, try to let him sleep for a minimum of 1 hour and 30 minutes. Gradually increase the wake window between the time he wakes up from the nap ad bedtime, aiming for around 6:00. For his age, some babies can manage a wake time of up to 6:30, depending on their resistance. Create a calming bedtime routine which lasts between 20-30 min and then place him in his bed 15 minutes before bedtime. Hope this helps! 🫶🏼

@Elena if I let him have any longer than an hour he will have a massive wake window in the night. I personally think he had low sleep needs. He gets up at 6:30/7 and he want nap till 1 wake up at 2 before for 7 but it’s never 7 when he actually gets to sleep it more 8:30ish but the later the bedtime the earlier wake up

@Sarah The fact that he is fighting sleep for 2 hours is a big sign that he has not enough sleeping pressure and he does not need sleep at that time. His waking windows need to be changed according to his age.

Example of how the schedule could look like: 6:30/7:00 wake up 12:00/12:30 - 13:30/14:00nap 19:30/20:00 bedtime

@Elena that use to be his old schedule and I had to change it due to the amount of wake up in the night. It’s not even night he’s fighting me. Even anything he got to bed better when he doesn’t have a nap

Night awakenings can be due to the associationa not only the schedule, if you are breastfeeding, or using any prop to put him back to sleep he will continue to wake up does not matter how much you change the schedule.

The solution is to teach him how to fall asleep and go back to sleep independently! 🫶🏼

@Elena he doesn’t have anything in the night when he wakes up I go in and lay him back down.