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You’re doing amazing mama! Having a baby is hard and no one knows just how hard until you become a parent! If you are struggling please reach out to family, friends and/or a professional! My little one has just turned 7 months and things are so much easier now! I struggled at 4 months too with the lack of sleep and loss of who I used to be but things will get better, lean on those closest to you and remember you are doing amazing! X
Hey we have all been there whether some admit it or not. At 4 months they have a regression which is not fun. I'm currently going through it. Yesterday my LO screamed if I tried to get him to sleep or showed him the bottle. Take one day at a time, or even hour by hour. Have a lil treat for yourself ready for when they have a nap. Never be afraid to ask for help. X
It's hard really hard especially at that age where they don't really do much except cry, poo and occasionally sleep. As you get to the 6 month mark the pace that they change at will amaze you and it gets easier. You will start to find yourself again, your body will become your own again, hormones will settle and you'll start to enjoy it. If you are really concerned please speak to your health visitor or GP about PPD. It can take a while to get diagnosed so the sooner you reach out they can figure out what support you might need.
Possible sleep regression girl! And possibly PND. Please, please contact your doctor/health visitor for some advice. But just remember, babies don’t come with a manual, you’re doing your best! We got you girl! Keep at it!❤️
I felt exactly the same! My mental health took a nose dive, got trapped in negative thinking cycles, struggled with anger which has never been a thing for me before… I finally felt like I got my mind back at 17 months and 💯 convinced it was mostly hormone related as some other physical things changed around the same time which doctors had also put down to hormones. Hang in there. Stay kind to yourself. Get as much help / support you can. Look for family hubs near you. Remember that however you are feeling, whatever the internal voice is telling you.. You are your LOs world, they love you unconditionally no matter what kind of day you are having and no one else will know them and interpret their needs as well as you can. It is bloody hard! But so worth it on the other side. Try and pick 1 small thing a day that you can feel good about / will add to your happy and prioritise it. You can’t give from an empty cup x
I’m 3 months into motherhood and I’m suffering with postpartum depression and and postpartum anxiety so I got a referral from my gp to a mum and baby unit and I’m under a mental health care team, it was daunting to ask for help but I’m getting better hour by hour day by day. Definitely worth reaching out to friends or family or professionals. My inbox is always open ❤️ you got this Mama!
Honestly 4 months was the worst age for me. I hated life to be blunt but my little girl is 12 months now and im starting to feel like myself again. There is light at the end of the tunnel and I promise you it will get better. 6 months is when it started getting easier and I found motherhood more enjoyable. Try to get out more even if it's just a walk around the park, it sounds like alot of effort when you're already exhausted but the fresh air does wonders for you mental health and babies sleep. I hope you start to feel better soon ❤️ you're doing amazing
It is normal to feel this way, your life has completely changed and lack of sleep, hormones has such a big impact. Just keep going, your already doing an amazing job. Ask for help when you need it, talk to midwives/HV/GP. The rewards do come but motherhood is hard work xx hugs...I'm here doing it all again 2yr old and an 8 week old 🙄
Honestly the first year is the hardest, i dont think anyone speaks on how hard it actually is and we never truly know until we have our own. Your hormones are still all over the place and having a new baby that needs you for everything makes it a million times harder. I know this doesnt help but i promise it does get easier it just doesnt happen quickly. Im hoping you have some support around you to help try ease things