Would you rather your child be toilet trained or know how to read?

Maybe they are just looking for the positives.

@Karen possibly but I'm thinking more shouldn't being toilet trained be a bigger priority

At 5 it sounds more like a medical issue they should seek advice from docs. But I agree they are probably concerned but looking for positives!

@Fay at 5 it’s not a medical issue…. I know this because I have spoken with my child’s pediatrician and psychiatrist.

I was thinking the same thing as soon as I read this , that it’s probably a medical issue.

I dont think its an either/or hopefully kids can do both at age 5! I defo wanted to potty train before 5 and we are nearly done at age 3. Unfortunately some kids just soil themselves, even at school, i did as i just wasnt regular and didnt like going at school, but we got to bottom of it. I know a kiddo with adhd that wont go to toilet at school and her mum had come every lunch time to go at home but so many ppl had an opinion om whether this was a medical issur eor not

as someone who has cleaned up at least one poop accident if not more a day since OCTOBER 2024…it would be a miracle if my son was potty trained like fuck reading at this point 🤣🤣 i’ll read to him for the rest of his life if he would just poop on the damn potty 🚽

@S. annalese my niece had consistent bladder “accidents” and was only diagnosed at 6 after multiple consultant appointments - I guess that was why it’s forefront of my mind, sometimes these things take a while / persistence on the part of parents x

I mean, you may not have all the information, and they don't need to tell you or anyone, or justify it really.... They may be working on toilet competency, and there may be other complexities, or the child may not be ready just yet.. I think sometimes there's expectations on parents and kids that aren't realistic for every family, and everyone needs to do what's best for themselves, and worry about their own families. Except in situations of abuse or neglect of course.

Yeesh- at 5, both are expected to some reasonable degree. I don’t want to have to choose.

At age 5 kids should recognize their name. Of course if you try to push some skills they aren't developmentally ready for them other ones will suffer just as how the kids with advanced cognitive skills will often have low social/emotional skills. I would suggest aiming for staying in the guidelines of what is developmentally and age appropriate. High, unrealistic expectations just creates frustration and stress for everyone. ❤️