No more children

I have a 17 month old and at the moment I feel the same, while she’s getting to the good stage now, I hated being pregnant (severe morning sickness for 20 weeks), my birth went no where near according to plan and I worry about this again, and as bad as it sounds, I hated the fourth trimester and really struggled mentally. But I feel like my daughter will love a sibling one day, I just keep hoping I’ll “forget” everything, but it hasn’t happened yet, so I’m just thinking a decent age gap may help…

My son's 10.5 months old and I'm still trying to process how the newborn stage went, pregnancy was good, just kinda one of the sahm with a trades working father, so just had to deal with the fact of being the only parent fully taking care of our baby this whole time. I did make him bond a bit more close to 7 months old, cause i was also dealing with the restlessness teething symptom and no respect with the sleep regressions on top of everything when baby was 6 months old. With ppd too, so right now, with more teething, really rosy cheeks & diarrhea symptoms, 6 teeth now. My lack of interest with sex is basically my form of birth control right now. The thought of another baby is none existent tbh, to me right now, cause of focused on the now more, but idk about being the only parent taking care of the "kids" though, but my side, we have a chance of having twins. Its more of "Who Knows" now 🤷🏽‍♀️

I'm 100% 1 and done, we sort of knew we were before we even had her tbh. My pregnancy wasn't that bad really and I had an okay birth, I did struggle for a few months after but nothing life shattering, we just don't want any more! Between us we have so many reasons, financially we want to be able to be comfortable and still be able to do things, we want to be able to put all of our time, energy and resources into our daughter and neither of us like the thought of having to split it between 2 or more kids. We both know personally that having siblings doesn't mean you have an automatic friend for life so we don't feel guilty about not giving her one 😅 I feel like people, myself included honestly, feel like they need to over-justify being 1 and done but like, why? If having only 1 child is right for you and your family, who are other people to question that? 😅

@Lauren I complete agree, one and done is where we are heading too…I like the thought of being more financially secure with one child, being able to go away more often ect…I also agree that having a sibling doesn’t mean they’re going to be lifelong best friends…And I also don’t understand the shock that people feel when I tell them we think one is enough for us. X

Exactly! I've even seen people called selfish for only having one, like sorry what?? Surely it's MORE selfish to have more kids than you can handle/care for/provide for/give attention to, or having another kid you don't reeaally want just because you think it's the "right" thing 😅 and people just don't accept it as an answer either, it's ALWAYS "so when's the next one?" "ahh you'll change your mind" "you never know" please 😤 I DO know, thank you very much 🙄 I just let them know my fiancé is getting a vasectomy and that usually shuts it down 😂