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Does the friend spend much time with your daughter? Have children of her own/much experience with them? Does she have a job/other commitments which might make it more complicated than just being able to say yes? I wouldn't ever assume someone would say yes to me asking this sort of thing tbh, especially due to the nature of it, it's a big commitment. I hope you won't hold it against her, sounds like she was a bit surprised tbh! Can you give her some time to think it over? You say your husband's family is overseas but if you have a planned section would it be possible to have someone over as you'd know the date they're needed? Or like above, nursery, childminder etc?
@Neena we may have to go that route, hubby will need to look after her. She goes to childcare 4 days a week.. she didn’t really give an answer but palmed it off to can’t you’re mum look after her..?
@Rachel they know each other and we’ve been to each other’s homes, my friend has minded her once as I as a GTT appointment. Yeah she’s got to older kids in their tweens. She works casually 3-4 days a week. Hubby’s family has 10 siblings and his mum probably can’t afford to travel to us we’re in Australia and they’re in Europe.
I'm due in a few days and this has been the main source of anxiety. We have a bunch of friends all willing to take my 3.5 year old until the in laws can travel here but it's just going to depend who is available if anyone at the time. Will be tricky if it's 2am 😬
Your husband will have to look after your older child at home whilst you have the baby on your own and then later both of them will be able to come in and visit you. Does your child not go to nursery or pre-school? Has your friend flat out said no? Your other options are to pay for a childminder to look after your child during the day and a babysitter in the evening, but your husband would still have to come back home and put her to bed/remain overnight.