Second time mums who brought their newborn home
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My first is 18 months old and she is doing really well. She's been a bit more emotional than normal but obviously it is a big change. She often wants to know where baby is and is showing her attention, we just keep a close eye to make sure she is being gentle!!
We have a 4 year old boy and our new little boy is 13 days old. We have been incredibly lucky with our 4 year old, he has been fantastic! We explained everything that was happening before birth regarding the hospital stay after birth (we had c section) so he wouldn’t be surprised. When we were out of theatre and settled after the birth we FaceTimed him and asked him when he wanted to come and meet him and gave him choices so he felt in control. When he was in the hospital we gave him the options of just looking/ touching/ holding baby. We never put any pressure on him to do anything he didn’t want to. We made sure he had lots of cuddles without baby and do stuff with him on his own. He absolutely loves his brother and second day he decided he wanted to hold baby, help fetch things to change him and feed him. He loves singing to him and talking to him when he’s awake! He also was very happy to have a present from the baby! Good luck with your birth and both your kiddies! Xx
@Kate I thought it was just us having these problems! My daughter is 4 and in reception and the last week has been horrific behaviour wise. I'm also breastfeeding but dad does give expressed milk occasionally when needed. She loves her brother but its too much sometimes
It’s been really positive so far. We’ve found going 1-2 easier than 0-1. Good luck x
My little girl is one and my little boy is 2weeks old , it’s been hard today was my first day with them both on my own , my little girl omg her behaviour has changed she’s been so naughty especially at bed time she use t be so good at going to bed on her own at 7pm but past 2 weeks she screams the whole house down when going to bed we have tried to keep her down here til 8pm but nope still screams when she goes up it’s exhausting atm but she’s so gentle when it comes to her brother she will help me with the nappy changes bottle feeds winding him but she can get so jealous too me and my partner both involve her with everything so she’s still involved with us but it’s a big change she had us both to herself now she’s got to share so it’s gonna take a while to get use to it hopefully it does get easier she’s been waking up screaming in the middle of the night too so today she woke up at half 5 while I was feeding the baby so yeh it’s long days
For me it’s gone really well. My son is 3.5 and he adores his little sister. I think it really depends on the child’s personality and age. It’s been difficult at times but mostly because I’m recovering from a C-section which prevents me from doing as much as I would normally with him.
Just to say it's really reassuring to read these. My eldest is 20 months and have been home with my 12 day old for about a week after an extended hospital stay. Big brother seems very curious and excited about his little bro but The only word I can use to describe his behaviour is "emotional" so I'm glad it's not just us - hopefully a bit of light at the end of the tunnel and not a big shift for him as he's still a bit young to understand.
It’s been difficult, I won’t lie. Our 3 year old is very sweet with her baby brother… but… her behaviour became so much worse overall for about a week. So we thought that’s how she was adjusting to the change. And also there is mum guilt because you physically can’t give your eldest the same amount of attention. I find it particularly difficult because I’m constantly breastfeeding the newborn. I’d like to think that when we establish some sort of routine, things will get easier. Good luck!