Are you insecure about your C section scar?

So I stuggled I think my age played a part I was 19 when I had my c-section and it was very wonky. It doesn’t bother me at all anymore (21 ) I honestly just think a big part of it is accepting your new body and what it gave you , it takes time. If she feels it’s impacting her mental heath she can definitely reach out to a gp / midwife ext for support x

Great insight and advice. Thank you🧡

I question if its the physical scar that's the actual issue? If your sister had a traumatic experience, then the scar would be a reminder of that. This is a far deeper issue.

There isn't a poll option for not struggling with it, unless the wording on the 3rd one is wrong? You say the birth was recent? She should get used to it being there, and the appearance will fade over time, as will the memories of the trauma. A bit of care on the scar e.g scar massage may help with the appearance, reduction of scar tissue, and help her connect with the area. But really just empathy is the best thing. You can't talk someone in to not feeling how they feel, just be there to listen, not try to solve the issue. Give her time and love and support.

What about no and never did as an option? It honestly doesn’t bother me. My purple stretch marks and saggy dimpled skin though - that bothers me. I’d have got that either way though.

I didn't get a c section my abdominal wall ripped on its own and I got a umbilical hernia and I gotta get surgery to fix it it's extremely painful daily but the point is my stomach to me now looks like a nightmare but my husband kissed it and said not to worry about it cuz it brought our son to us and he hasn't acted like I'm any less now for being scarred up he's been quite caring and kind about it so I stopped feeling as badly about it

Where is the no and never was option 🤷🏼‍♀️. Its an amazing thing our body was able to do. Wear the scars proudly 😊. 2x over here 🙋🏼‍♀️

Truly couldn’t care less about it. I have my insecurities but that’s never been one of them 🤷‍♀️

I couldn't care less about mine. I never cared. Now that I hear women complain about peeing when they cough or being looser down there, I'm kind of happy I had all c-sections since I don't have either of those issues. I've never leaked a drop of pee.

Is she bothered by not being able to have a vaginal birth? Or by the appearance of the scar? Or because it reminds her of a traumatic event? It might just take time for her to get used to it. Have her tell herself positive things about her scar and she will start believing them

I hate having it, I hate looking at it because I hated having to have a C-section. But I have accepted that this is how my babies came to be and I can't change it. My son is 3 and it took me awhile to accept it. Mine isn't visible at all unless I'm naked, so that might factor if he's is more visible. If she recently gave birth then she needs time to process her traumatic birth and that she has a section. It might still be feeling numb and sensitive, so it's a constant reminder. Hopefully she can accept it as time goes on, but validate her feelings on it and meet her where she is.

At least it’s not vertical 💁🏻‍♀️ my sister was always a lil insecure about hers (even though her belly is flat) she buys one pieces w cute cutouts but a bit higher waisted to cover the scar and one day she sent me a pic saying “omg some women have vertical scars! What am I doing insecure w mine!” And that helped her heal I think. Most are horizontal and can be covered by clothes or a lil high waist. You can’t cover up a vertical scar

I had an emergent c-section that was traumatic. For the first several weeks, I couldn’t look at my incision or scar. It was almost like PTSD. My baby is 4 months old now and I feel better about it. Looking at it or touching it still brings out a lot of emotions, but I try my best to view it as a reminder that I’m strong and how lucky I am to have brought my baby into this world. 🤍 Editing to add: if it’s the appearance she’s insecure about, silicone scar patches work really well!

I actually like my scar, every time I look at it i smile and think of my perfect little boy 🥰 Makes me feel proud of myself too!

@Ava have you received any words that actually resonated? My niece is 8 months old. She( my sister) has been through counseling, and it helped with the trauma of birth. It's just the scar that haunts her. She is newly pregnant again and is struggling. I'm trying my best to empathize. Any words I can say to her?

I’m proud of mine 😂

@Jennifer secretly... same! 😅

Fine with mine

My LB is about to turn 2 and the scar is barely visible, which makes me a little sad actually because I loved mine! I get quite sentimental over it. Less so about my vagina after tears & episiotomy! 🤣 But honestly, it probably will fade away quite quickly, so if its appearance that’s worrying her, it won’t be forever. If it’s birth trauma she should speak to someone to go over what happened - in the Uk we have ‘birth reflections’ which is sort of post partum therapy. The red book will have the details. *edit - I just saw you said she’s had therapy, which is great for her

No one has ever really said anything about the scar because I don't mention it. Only my husband and he is supportive. So no words that really resonated. If the scar still haunts her then I hope she continues in therapy until it doesn't. Also, being pregnant so soon after her first birth might bring out more fears especially since she will probably have a repeat C-section. My births weren't traumatic, but I have heard others who had a second scheduled C-section found them very healing from the first.