Non stop arguments with husband

Partial rant / partially hoping to hear I’m not the only one! My husband is the most wonderful kind person and is the best daddy but we cannot stop arguing about anything and everything and whenever we do we always both throw shit at eachother about our parenting techniques which I think just breaks down our relationship more and more everytime. I’m very much wanting to give my daughter (9mo) what she needs so if that’s allowing a contact nap when she’s sick or picking her up when she’s upset then I will. He’s very routined and really struggles with her crying so he’ll just try and carry on with routine as normal and distract her from crying (although imo the techniques don’t often work cos she just wants a hug). We get so angry at eachother and today I was pushed totally over the edge and told him I hate him and want a divorce. In that moment I did, but I do love him so much, but I hate our relationship at the moment. Just feel so fed up and he won’t even consider therapy (what is it with some of these men?!) so I just don’t know what to do because I’m so miserable and constantly just anticipating an argument

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Hey there, can’t say I’m in your position or have been before, certainly not with my current partner. But even so, I’m sorry you’re going through this, and from talking to people and hearing what friends etc have to say, you’re 100% not the only one! I hope he comes round to therapy, but if he does one tip is to ensure you both like the therapist.. :) Fingers crossed you manage to work through it, if that’s what you want ❤️

Myself and my partner have had some awful arguments this past year, so I know how you feel. It hurts me so much that it may have damaged our relationship, as we've been together for 5.5 years and we've been SO close! But having a baby is HARD, and really takes its toll on your relationship! I know we'll be OK, I also know that I get really bad PMS so I need to see the doctor about it tbh. I think you both need to have a really good talk and work on a plan to move forwards

If you are arguing all the time then your baby will pick up on this. Unfortunately, you will need to both be able to compromise for the best way to parent. If you can't do this then I'm not sure how you will get through it. Did you discuss your parenting techniques before your baby was born?

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