Disrespect?

WRONG WRONG WRONG ON HIS PART

My now ex helped his co worker sext another man. And I’m like dude that’s beyond not okay. She’s seeing how comfortable you are speaking sexually with her. Just to find out all his Guy friends he works with had also been telling him she likes him. She is super easy. Cheating on her fiance with anyone she can.

It is his job to put her in her place and set boundaries. If he downplays it and isn’t taking you seriously then there is a problem.

@Willow thats exactly what i think but basically he is gaslighting me that he loves me and is with me and only wants to be with me i have told him just because you are with me doesn’t mean she hasnt gotten his attention and that basically for me feels like it ruins our relationship

@Willow and yes i totally agree if he isnt setting boundaries and puts her in her place there is a problem and i definitely don’t want to be the one going up to her she is known to mess with guys that are taken especially the ones that their ladies just had a baby she thinks that they arent getting down to business so she comes in between trying to sleep with them its disgusting and im definitely not trying to confront her because she really isnt worth my time

Why always men refuse to believe what we believe? Why are they made like this? I don’t get it, they want problems for themselves and then they want problems for our family too. My question is do women believe what men believe? For example if any guy would flirt with you does your husband tell you “hey this guy likes you?” Because you can be like “Sorry honey don’t believe it” How would he react to this? Just put him in your shoes it’s better.

@Lindsey we literally just broke up last night because it has been one thing after another. Feel free to message me or text me!

Some women are like that. Just nasty. But no she isn’t worth your time. And he should be the one to do it for your comfort out of respect for your relationship.

@Erina trust me i have and there has been one time when he felt like some guy was interested in me and i told my hubby oh no i dont think so or i dont know and he said trust me he does a guy knows and well he wasnt wrong and i completely cut that person off and told him respectfully im happy with my mans and Im not interested but i feel to him he cant do that he cant see that im not overreacting im simply calling it as i see it

@Willow i genuinely feel like he wont because i do feel like he does like her but he just be ignoring my feelings and always think im the one overreacting

Id say leave or put some space between you and him. But I know that’s not always an easy decision or an option. It took me a while.

No I totally agree with you but honestly im in a space where im only in a relationship for my 2 kids and because I’ve recently lost my dad so i want them to have their dad around i guess im just playing myself

@Lindsey I was in the same place. To the point where i literally did not care what happened romantically. And that made things so much worse because I was begging him to fix things. For my sanity and our relationship as parents we needed to not have the romantic aspect.

@Willow there still love between us not how we started but a bit but no with this idk how to feel tbh

Absolutely. We love each other. Just things aren’t where they need to be in order for us to have a healthy relationship. If that makes sense.

The moment a partner is uncomfortable with a co worker for serious and completely reasonable reasons then the partner should not be accepting friend requests online nor should be sending them or following them. He knows you’re uncomfortable with it yet goes against your feelings. He should be putting distance between them and keeping it strictly co workers. And if she keeps harassing him he should report her. What she is doing is inappropriate in workplace anyway, “discussing intimate relations”. That stuff should be talked about to someone outside of work, not in work with anyone. There’s no reason to discuss that unless you’re close friends with someone and it’s about issues to do with it. Not blatant going into detail about intimate relations. It’s also disgusting when women throw themselves at married men. If it were a single man it would be way different. Both of them hold fault but your husband should be correcting her

@Willow no yes i totally get it girl i guess im just going to need some time for my self

@Dionne no yes definitely agree with you on everything you said and ive mentioned it to him that they shouldnt be talking about that i work in HR there and ive told him that its very appropriate for someone to be talking to you about that especially since they arent very close and I insisted in getting that reported and he did not want her to get in trouble mind you she already has a report for something similar like this by someone else who saw it you would think she would be careful and watch what she says or do but no and yes its disgusting that she does this its no respect from either and thats exactly why i dont know what to do

How insecure is your man that he is entertaining a desperate woman and allowing her to massage his ego?

@Jehan right!!! Like what makes it ok

Put your foot down and tell him how it is and if he doesn’t do anything about then there will be consequences he won’t like. People need to stop being doormats

@Lindsey it’s even worse that you work there and he’s comfortable doing that. I would be reporting her myself

@Kloey I absolutely did and at first he was defending her but once i started making my points that it’s unbelievable how hes acting like we are in high school when we’re not and we are adults we should be smart enough to realize that the girl’s intentions are not good

@Dionne I absolutely do agree but as of right now i cant do much since im on maternity leave which im hoping ill be back soon then I’ll definitely be looking out and will report her if i see anything other than work