Friendship failing š
I have a 8 year friendship. We were friends
Then great mama friends.
Been through it all together. The good the bad the ugly.
And everything in between.
She has made new friends. Lost weight. Has become so differnt and Iāve been the ābackupā friend for a long while now (6months ish) sheās just been so snotty and self centered and focused on her new friendsā¦ And what feels fake to me altogether. Itās been hard to keep up with mentally when sheās texting me calling me her best friend but making me feel like less than even a person at this point.
I messaged her saying I might need a break from her after she made it clear she didnāt invite either of my children to her daughters birthday. When my son was her daughters FIRST friend š¢ and they have remained friends ācousinsā
She said we were invited to the family party. It stung.
Didnāt apologize instead I was told by her not to give her an attitude for simply telling her I felt hurt.
Is it healthy to walk away and leave this friendship in the past? I know people grow apart. I just never thought it would be US that would after 8 whole years.
Do I even give her a chance to make it better? I feel she changed as a person and
I canāt change thatā¦.
After texting her that I might need space she didnāt even say anything. Yea I understand I asked for spaceā¦ā¦
But, She didnāt even try and fight for our friendship considering sheās been the one that has been falling through on my end.
This sucks so bad. Idk what to do or how Iām suppose to feel.
I feel hurt and defeated and I donāt want to feel like this again.
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I needed to hear this. Thank you for saying it how it IS. It sucks but maybe to be a better person and focus on bettering myself I canāt with her either. Maybe itās suppose to be this way.
I had something similar happen with a long-term friend and I've had to come to terms with the fact that we might not be good for each other anymore. It's very clear I'm low priority for her now and I want better quality relationships than that. There has also been disrespect that's only getting worse, otherwise I'm not sure I'd end it altogether. Would you want to keep the friendship if it was more surface level? Nothing wrong with that either if you're OK with it. But it's also OK if you're not.
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Sometime friends arenāt meant to be forever. Not trying to be mean at all bc this has happened to plenty of people but maybe itās a new chapter in her life. And your apart of her first book instead of the series ua know?